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“How do you measure your self worth?”

Take a minute and answer this question to yourself. Really, stop reading and answer it. If someone put you in a room and told you to write down how you measure YOUR self-worth, what would you put down on that piece of paper? Is it based off your looks, your intellect, your accomplishments, the opinions of others, the amount of twitter and Facebook followers you have? How do you measure your self worth? The minute you find out the answer, hold on to it and it’s discuss it.

There is the parable about a old man who gave his son a precious ring. He told his son to take it to the market and take no less than one gold coin for the ring. The young man went to every market and every vendor and they all laughed him away and told him he was crazy and that the ring was only worth 5 silver coins. He went home disappointed and told his father he had failed. His father then told him to go to a an expert jeweler and find out the value of the ring but NOT to sell it for any reason. 

How do you measure your self worth?

The young man went to the jeweler and gave him the ring. The jeweler looked it over and offered the young man 50 gold coins. The young man was so surprised he could only stare at the jeweler. The jeweler then offered 70 gold coins and promised even more if the young man would agree and sell it right away. The son picked up his ring and went home to the father surprised and confused by jeweler’s offers. He told his father the news and his father laughed and said, “Son you can’t expect the fools at the markets and in the streets to ever know the worth of something as priceless as this jewel. Only an expert will ever know it’s true value.” Now, How do you measure your self worth? Is it the street value or the value of an expert evaluator?

This story is exactly what is happening in the world we live in. We look everywhere else for self-worth except at the two experts: God who created you, and yourself. We look at “role models” like Kim Kardashian or Nikki Minaj and when our body, face, hair or life doesn’t line up, we lose a little bit of self-esteem. When we see others doing better than us in life, on their jobs, in their families, we lose a little bit of self-esteem. Without even knowing, we are unconsciously measuring ourselves against a standard that was never meant for us. So, Let me ask again, how do you measure your self worth?

How do you measure your self worth?

If the measuring rod for YOUR self worth isn’t God and yourself, then throw the whole ruler away. Start all over. You will never measure up to the standards of any one else point-blank-period. You were made uniquely, differently and beautifully. Individual from your eyes all the way to your fingertips; there is no one else like you! Keep that in mind every time comparison tries to creep in. Pick up your Bible and read how you were wonderfully and beautifully made (Ps. 139) and how God knew you and had a plan for you before you were even born (Jeremiah 1:5). Put these scriptures and self-affirming words all over your mirror, house and doors and feed your spirit with them every day. Self worth is an inside job. It begins by building ourself up from the inside out. The minute you realize your self worth and value, you refuse to give others discounts and to discount yourself from all that is good in this world. 

You won’t be perfect if you’re skinnier, smarter, prettier, taller, etc. because you are ALREADY perfect! So, how do you measure your self worth? The way to measure your self-worth is by the Word of God and You. You must change how you see yourself, how you love yourself and how you treat yourself. Be your own best friend, be your own cheerleader and lift yourself up. In life, there are so many people and things that pull us down, don’t be one of those people and things…LOVE YOU AND OTHERS WILL LOVE YOU!

how do you measure your self worth?

I hope this helped someone out there. I write this because during the holidays, suicide and depression rates are at their highest. We have to learn to love ourselves, to lift ourselves up and remind ourselves of the intrinsic value that we have as human beings. We have to allow God to do the rest. When we are hopeless and feel worthless, ask God to reveal your value to you and He will. Share this post with someone who needs it and remember, I love you and hope and pray the best for you.

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Okay, if you know me, you know I’m all about the holidays, especially Christmas!! It is imperative for me to make sure that everyone that is dear to me is in the holiday spirit!  I just Loveee it!! Holidays give you a reason to shop more & care less (until your bank statement arrives)!!

Nevertheless, I’m all about treating yourself-you’ve worked all year, buy the SHOES (do it for the culture)!! I’m sure I’ve used the excuse of “it’s Christmas” one too many times in regards to one too many purchases!! People ask, “What is it about the holidays that you love so much?” My answer is simple:

When I think of the holidays I think of relaxation, time off work, *random ugly sweater parties (any excuse to partay!) & quality time with friends and family. Too often we get caught up in the combustion of the materialistic items and find ourselves stressed out!! While in reality it’s not even about that. Don’t get me wrong. I will shop til’ I drop (I’m not a shopaholic, I’m actually helping the economy). However, I’m more so here for creating moments that turn into forever memories.

I’m a mommy to a FABULOUS five year old (Kaylen) that has a personality bigger than herself!! I honestly never saw myself being a mother. & I honestly never thought that I would be saying this… but she is the BEST thing I’ve ever done!! Hands down!

A day in my life consist of being a full-time mother, (shout out to mothers, especially SINGLE mothers) working as a full-time Paralegal & prepping to finesse my way into law school. My mind is constantly on GO, always thinking, always prepping, always scheduling, literally ALWAYS doing something!

For this very reason when holiday season comes I am HAPPY. I am JOYFUL. I am THANKFUL. I am APPRECIATIVE. During the months of January-October we are busy getting our lives together for the better! I look at November (Thanksgiving) & December (Christmas) as a time to relax & catch up on things and people that I may have put off during my “Grind Months”.

 

“GIVE THEM THEIR FLOWERS WHILE THEY’RE STILL ALIVe”

Holiday season is the perfect time to do so! Take time out to appreciate the ones you love, you don’t have to literally give flowers (unless that’s your thing) but words and affection can go a long way.

This holiday season my hope is that we don’t forget the true reason for the season (Isaiah 9:6). That we find bliss within the smallest things. & that we take time out to love our loved ones while they are here.

Happy Holidays! May they be as EXTRAORDINARY as YOU!

 

 

 

 

Xoxo-Ashlen & Kaylen

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