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“How do you measure your self worth?”

Take a minute and answer this question to yourself. Really, stop reading and answer it. If someone put you in a room and told you to write down how you measure YOUR self-worth, what would you put down on that piece of paper? Is it based off your looks, your intellect, your accomplishments, the opinions of others, the amount of twitter and Facebook followers you have? How do you measure your self worth? The minute you find out the answer, hold on to it and it’s discuss it.

There is the parable about a old man who gave his son a precious ring. He told his son to take it to the market and take no less than one gold coin for the ring. The young man went to every market and every vendor and they all laughed him away and told him he was crazy and that the ring was only worth 5 silver coins. He went home disappointed and told his father he had failed. His father then told him to go to a an expert jeweler and find out the value of the ring but NOT to sell it for any reason. 

How do you measure your self worth?

The young man went to the jeweler and gave him the ring. The jeweler looked it over and offered the young man 50 gold coins. The young man was so surprised he could only stare at the jeweler. The jeweler then offered 70 gold coins and promised even more if the young man would agree and sell it right away. The son picked up his ring and went home to the father surprised and confused by jeweler’s offers. He told his father the news and his father laughed and said, “Son you can’t expect the fools at the markets and in the streets to ever know the worth of something as priceless as this jewel. Only an expert will ever know it’s true value.” Now, How do you measure your self worth? Is it the street value or the value of an expert evaluator?

This story is exactly what is happening in the world we live in. We look everywhere else for self-worth except at the two experts: God who created you, and yourself. We look at “role models” like Kim Kardashian or Nikki Minaj and when our body, face, hair or life doesn’t line up, we lose a little bit of self-esteem. When we see others doing better than us in life, on their jobs, in their families, we lose a little bit of self-esteem. Without even knowing, we are unconsciously measuring ourselves against a standard that was never meant for us. So, Let me ask again, how do you measure your self worth?

How do you measure your self worth?

If the measuring rod for YOUR self worth isn’t God and yourself, then throw the whole ruler away. Start all over. You will never measure up to the standards of any one else point-blank-period. You were made uniquely, differently and beautifully. Individual from your eyes all the way to your fingertips; there is no one else like you! Keep that in mind every time comparison tries to creep in. Pick up your Bible and read how you were wonderfully and beautifully made (Ps. 139) and how God knew you and had a plan for you before you were even born (Jeremiah 1:5). Put these scriptures and self-affirming words all over your mirror, house and doors and feed your spirit with them every day. Self worth is an inside job. It begins by building ourself up from the inside out. The minute you realize your self worth and value, you refuse to give others discounts and to discount yourself from all that is good in this world. 

You won’t be perfect if you’re skinnier, smarter, prettier, taller, etc. because you are ALREADY perfect! So, how do you measure your self worth? The way to measure your self-worth is by the Word of God and You. You must change how you see yourself, how you love yourself and how you treat yourself. Be your own best friend, be your own cheerleader and lift yourself up. In life, there are so many people and things that pull us down, don’t be one of those people and things…LOVE YOU AND OTHERS WILL LOVE YOU!

how do you measure your self worth?

I hope this helped someone out there. I write this because during the holidays, suicide and depression rates are at their highest. We have to learn to love ourselves, to lift ourselves up and remind ourselves of the intrinsic value that we have as human beings. We have to allow God to do the rest. When we are hopeless and feel worthless, ask God to reveal your value to you and He will. Share this post with someone who needs it and remember, I love you and hope and pray the best for you.

You can always reach out to me at houseofodara@gmail.com. Read the latest fashion blog post HERE!

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SKY-HIGH-THIGH-HIGH BOOTS

“Thigh-highs are like gloves for the legs…they keep them nice and cozy”

How do you wear sky-high-thigh-high boots without looking like you’re on your way to your night job as a featured dancer?! hahaha! Well, let me tell you how in this wonderful piece i’m calling sky-high-thigh-highs. Thigh-high boots are not only a great fall trend, but they are functional and actually serve a purpose. I love them because when I wear a short skirt, dress or shorts in the fall, they keep my legs warm and give me some modesty. Growing up with a Nigerian mum, having your legs, thighs or décolletage out was the mortal sin (Chai, hell fire awaits you daughter).

Do not be afraid of the thigh high trend. It’s actually a fun and sexy way to be both warm and fashionable. The problem a lot of us thicker-legged women run into is that sky-high-thigh-high boots never fit over our calf muscles and juicy juicy yams. Well that is why the Lycra boot is going to be your BFF.

sky-high-thigh-high boots

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Studded Faux Leather Jacket

These red sky-high-thigh-high boots have been so popular because not only do they stretch to the GAWDS, but they come in some really beautiful colors. I’ve never found boots that zip all the way up and cover my whole dark-meat legs. But, these ones just slid right on up with ease and they actually feel good on your bare legs. If you don’t have a pair of lycra boots in your shoe arsenal….GET YOU SOME BOO!!!! 

Now that you see how I rocked my sky-high-thigh-high lycra boots, how would you have worn them. Let me know what you think about this trend, if you would ever be caught dead in thigh-high boots or if you already own several of them. Like I said, for my thick girls, stretch thigh-high boots are going to be your best friend all season long so invest in a good pair of them. If you missed the last post on how to channel jealousy into motivation, click HERE to read it.

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If you would like to collaborate or need styling for a big event, email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com

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Issa.Celebration

“Every day is a celebration when you have the right bag”

Today on the blog, I am showing you how to style a floor-length wrap dress with a plunging neckline and a colorful-textured bag. I received this bag to style for a local business owner and entrepreneur and I fell in love with it as soon as I received it. The bag is PHENOMENAL! it’s heavy, well-made and a topic starter. It definitely makes a statement no matter how and where you wear it.

Let’s begin with this beautiful plunging neckline dress. It’s a Gianni Bini wrap dress that is a little too long for me but the color was too rich to pass up. I began by layering the dress with a gold, jewel-encrusted undershirt and finished it some sky-high, ankle-strap heels. I don’t know about you, but I’m not really a plunging-neckline type of girl so I always layer to hide my décolletage. One tip when layering an outfit is put a shirt underneath that has a pattern or is jewel-encrusted or has texture to it. It just adds a little something extra to the look. For my petite girls, a sky-high heel and a long dress with a slit is your best friend; it helps elongate your frame. Another tip: if your dress has a split, find a pair of sexy heels and let them legs show!

how to style a plunging neckline and colorful bag

I love how there are little accents of gold from my bag to my shoe to my undershirt.

Now, Let’s talk about how to style this colorful bag. I recently did a post on Adachicdesigns and you can read all about it HERE! This bag is one of my favorite bags i’ve styled so far because it makes a statement all by itself. I love this colorful piece because I don’t have to do much to make it stand out. Last tip, when styling a colorful bag, try and keep everything else simple, unless of course you love styling different prints and textures. You can pair this bag with a little black dress or to be more edgy, pair it with a patterned dress. Check out the site www.adachicdesigns.com to purchase your own special bag.

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So, comment below and let me know what you think about this look and the bag. If you purchase one, tag House of Odara and Adachicdesigns for a chance to be featured on the page.

For collaborations, email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com

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Form-Fitting…No Problem

“I like my clothes like I like my money, stretchable”

Let’s jump right into one of my favorite topics…Lycra. Okay, today i’m talking about what to look for when you buy form-fitting jeans and dresses and how to wear it without looking round or lumpy. As a new mummy, wearing stretch denim or dresses scared me because of my weight gain and the shape of my new body. Big dresses and sweats were my BFF’s until I realized I could still be a hot mama I just needed to pick the right items, pair it well and accentuate the good.

You don’t have to be afraid of stretch material because it’s a actually a girls best friend. When buying a pair of jeans, a 3-4% stretch is what you need. The lycra will help shape your legs and stomach and give you a great shape. Stretch is your BFF whether you are curvy, petite, tall or in-between.

When designers Daniel and Derek of SplashedbyDKG sent me a dress to blog for them, I almost screamed when I saw that it was a dark blue stretchy material. I thought how am I going to wear this without making my body look round? Well, duh, when in doubt, BELT IT.

The beautiful thing about belts is that they help cinch in that waist and give the illusion of an hourglass figure. You want to wear the belt at the smallest part of your waistline and let the magic happen. After I put the dress on and let go of my phobia, I realized it shaped to me so well and the slinky material was flattering as well as super comfortable. The thing I was so afraid of ended being my favorite asset. I found a pair of sexy Forever21 heels, a tulle sock and my fur jacket to add a little bit more drama to this look and voila, magic!. The dress will be sold at the Magic City Market today from 12-4 at the Goldstein and Cohen Building at 406 19th St Ensley, Birmingham, AL 35218. I hope to see you guys there. 

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Velvet Studded T-Strap Heels

So, don’t be afraid of form-fitting clothes. Learn to pair them with something that accentuates the good, like a great belt or a crop jacket, blazer or cape. My friend Aliscia, who is a bit curvier paired her with a trench and gold belt. She made the look her own and killed it as well. This is the same dress, two different body shapes, two different styles but both are amazing.

 

Let me know if I’ll be seeing you at 12PM at the Magic City Market and come find me if you come. Let me know if you plan on recreating this beautiful look and again, don’t be afraid of the stretch, it can be your best friend if done the right way. For collaborations, email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com

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Fall.Into.Fashion

“Hoodies, Bonfires, Cuddling…Fall is here”

I stepped outside of my apartment Saturday and It was legitimately not hot…lol!. Okay, it wasn’t sweater or even jacket weather, but I felt a small coolness in the air. Here in the South, we hardly ever get a REAL Fall or a REAL Winter. In the South, Summer is King! Still, we have to get ready for some Fall fashion, and I am giving you some of the must-haves for this season. For my friends in the North, i’m sure you are already ready for the cooler weather.

Okay, the first item I stock up on in the Fall and Winter are booties. I love them in every color, style and shape. I own a lot of them but the one i’m crushing on this season is a pair of lace up, imitation Yeezy Season IV ankle boots. I found a pair at Forever21 and they were a must buy. Kim K has been wearing them all summer long. Kim if you are reading this, please send me a pair…i’ll DM you my info (send prayers up y’all). The pair from Forever21 is a LOT cheaper.

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So, i’m obsessed with every pair of booties on this list. But, for those who want a little more coverage on their legs, knee and thigh-high boots are a must have. I have a pair of silver ones on the list that are a bit daring but I plan on wearing them SOON!:

Libby Peeptoe Sock Thigh High BootsVictoria Denim Peeptoe Thigh High Boots

Next, another of my Fall must-haves is a good faux-fur jacket and Trench Coat:

Alisha Shaggy Faux Fur CoatEmily Faux Fur Collar Wool Look CoatVanessa Double Breasted Belted Trench Coat

Okay, so it is definitely time for sweaters and sweater dresses. Even though I am NOT a sweater dress person, I know how easy, comfortable and warm they can be, especially with a pair of boots. Here are some affordable sweaters and sweater dresses:

Poppy Ruffle Sleeve Sweater
Black Color Block Bell Sleeve Ruffle Hem Sweater DressFold Over Bardot Sweater Dress

Another Fall must-haves are all the accessories and accouterments that come along with cooler weather. I live for a good scarf, leggings, tights, leg warmers and gloves. Also I love a super sturdy winter bag:
Graphic Print Oversized Scarf


Mia Faux Fur Cross Body Bag


Lastly, I want to give some ON TREND buys that I have found on Amazon for way less. These are trends that have debuted on the runway for Fall/Winter 2017. I’m giving you the four trends that I like so far and will be wearing. Remember, not every trend has to be followed; find what fits you and your style best. The first trend is dark, romantic florals. Next is fringe; who doesn’t love fabric that moves. Next is the cold or one shoulder look. Lastly is the Glitter-bomb trend (YAY)! Anything with glitter is my friend and I love this last dress because it’s fringe and glitter mixed together. Look at the Fall trends for 2017 and pick which ones you like and rock it with your bad self!



Remember, during the Fall and Winter, layer as much as possible. Put on an under shirt with an oversized sweater, a pair of great jeans or leggings and some booties, and you’ll be fashionable and warm all winter long. All these looks are affordable and will have you looking fabulous and stylish. So, what are you looking forward to purchasing and wearing this Fall/Winter season? Comment below and let me know.

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On Target

“Fashion is who you are wearing, Style is how you wear it”

Okay, So I follow a lot of bloggers who have a lot of money or collaborate with a lot of high-end fashion designers. Everything they wear cost more than my college tuition…I mean labels to the GAWDS. Now, I definitely cannot keep up with them when it comes to high-end items but I can make any item I buy look high-end. FYI this is what style is all about. I respect those who can make thrift store finds and bargain clothes look like a million bucks. To me, style does not equate money…it transcends money. 

Today’s blog is very special because I’ve teamed up with two other bloggers to style one item from Target’s “WhoWhatWear” collection. One thing I love about Target is that they always do collaboration with great high-end designers. This one launched January 31, 2016 and is based off current fashion trends and user/blogger feedback. The pieces are all under $50.00 and y’all, they are gorgeous. I am collaborating with blogger KD Harris of “Wear to Feast” and Dani Gee of “Danigee25” for this collection. We will be doing a GIVEAWAY soon.


We each paired our favorite item from the collection with something already in our wardrobe to show you how to wear the pieces and how to style on a budget. I purchased the ruffle wrap skirt in a size 4 *coughs…too small* but it’s on sale right now for $20.00. I paired it with an Ankara top, and my all time favorite pair of heels. My bag is thrifted but I found the coveted bamboo bag on Amazon for under $25.00 (you’re welcome).

KD styled her layered ruffle mini dress with a yellow clutch and black flats. This look is just so comfortable and great for a day date. Read and shop this look HERE. Dani Gee styled her colorful ruffle top with a pair of jeans and and strapped flats. Read and shop this look HERE. You can also find these awesome bloggers on IG: Weartofeast and Danigeelk    

Let me know your thoughts on the WhoWhatWear collection. Have you ever bought anything from that collection before and if so, how did you like it. FYI this top will be part of a collection me and a team are working on, so make sure you’re following me on Instagram, Facebook and subscribe to my newsletter for updates. For collaborations, please email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com

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Happy New Year!

Happy New Year Loves!

First post of 2016 and I am beyond excited to see another day. The greatest gift we get everyday is the opportunity to open our eyes, take a deep breath, and start our day all over again. No we have 365 days to write our own story and I hope you take advantage of it. Forget about the hurts and pains of 2015 and look forward to the glorious 2016 that God has given you and make it the best yet. Let go of the bad habits of 2015 and pick up new and better habits this new year.

I’m excited to share this new year with all you beautiful people who take the time to read and comment and show support to my little blog. I’m excited about what 2016 has in store for this little blog and to grow and learn with all of you.

Now, as many of my closest friends know, I am a Serial-Thrifter. This is one habit that is definitely going with me into 2016.  My obsession started when I began to fall in love with vintage clothing. I don’t know about you, but i’ve realized that they don’t make clothes as sturdy as they used to. Nowadays, the material is just cheap…you wash them once and they shrink, change colors or tear apart. But when I would visit my favorite thrift stores and find something, it would last longer. I literally drive around on weekends looking for more vintage and thrift stores. Any time I go out of town, I start googling local vintage shoppes immediately.

One of my favorite vintage places to shop is called Rag-O-Rama in Atlanta, GA. If you’re in the area, go and check it out and let me know what you think. If you’re in Montgomery, AL there is also a great place that sells vintage clothing called Relly Rue Creative Studio; they always have great things there.

My outfit today is a nod to my obsession to all things vintage. I found this dress at Rag-O-Rama in Atlanta, GA and paired it with a great pair of ankle strap Guess heels. I kept it really simple and let the dress speak for itself!

So, what are some of your favorite thrift and vintage stores? Comment below and let us know what city you live in and the vintage stores you like so that we can visit them.

Psss…Make 2016 SPECTACULAR! Be Bolder, Be Happier and Never Give Up! I Love You.

Dress- Vintage

Shoes- Guess/Option B

Lipstick- Mac Ruby Woo

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XoXo Emma

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Ruffled

How many times has someone ruffled your feathers?

How many times has someone disappointed you or just made you mad? I cannot begin to count the number of times someone has let me down or made me so mad I had to speak in 10 different languages to calm myself down. It’s funny how one person can change our whole mood and day. I realized I never wanted to have anyone have that much power over my emotions and life. If you think about it, the moment you allow someone to change your mood, your attitude or your emotions, they have the upper hand…they win. But, if you remain calm, show grace and smile even when you are screaming on the inside, you win. The moment you don’t react the way someone expects you to, you show them that you are better, stronger and more mature than them…and that’s a good thing.

I remember a really trying time in my life last year when everybody seemed to be coming against me, talking about me and trying to get me to come out of character. My mom told me to kill them with kindness and to show them the love and grace of God. I did just that, and those same people that were bent on making me miserable, came back and apologized to me. I Won! LOL!

Let’s never allow ourselves to take off our crown to get down and dirty in the mess of someone else. They are not worth it…and you are worth more!

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Now that the only thing ruffled in our lives will be what we’re wearing on the outside. Check out this ruffled look. I am loving this ruffled skirt from Kardashian Collection for Sears. It’s no longer in stock but it comes in handy when I just want something cute, flirty and girly. I paired this feminine skirt with a simple knit racer front top, color blocked caged sandals, and a comfy jacket.

Check out this look and let me know what you think. Comment below and let me know how you respond to the negativity of others. Believe me, negativity will come but your reaction and how you handle it is all that matters. Give us some tips that work well for you and also let me know how you would have worn this look differently. I love hearing from you all and growing from all your suggestions, so thank you!

Jacket- Tahari/Amazon

Shirt- Charlotte Russe  or Option B

Skirt- Kardashian Kollection (sold out)/Forever 21

Shoes- Charlotte Russe

Now, let me know what you think about this look, how you would have worn it differently or any suggestions that you have (comment below).

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XoXo Emma Ford

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RTR

Iron Bowl 2015

First things first…Alabama or Auburn?!

If you’re from the South or love college football, you know what RTR stands for: Roll Tide Roll! The University of Alabama knows they choose a bomb print and a gorgeous color for their uniforms. Houndstooth and Crimson Red go hand-in-hand like Louboutins and Louboutins…lol! I am not a big sports girl, but my husband went to the University of Alabama for undergrad so I have to support and show my team spirit…my way.

A fall essential that every girl should have in their closet is a pair or two of leather tights, leather pants or leather anything! I own about 6 pairs of leather pants and I wear them indiscriminately. I styled my faux leather pants by sugarlips with a white knitted sweater and an Anne Klein Jacket. I found another great Houndstooth jacket on Zulily for $40.00. I love these  leatherette leggings from Dillards because they are affordable and the detailing is gorgeous.

I absolutely love this Anne Klien jacket. Let me know where you found your favorite jacket and put a link down below.

Also, comment below and let me know who you think is going to take this game home, Alabama or Auburn?

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XoXo Emma

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POP

We all have that one great coat that we love so much we wear it with everything. I bought mine from this great store called Ross Dress for Less. If you’ve ever been to Ross, you know you have to search deep and wide but when you do, you find the best items at really great prices.

Now, this season, the two-piece cropped look has been so popular on and off the runway. One of celebrities that I think styled and wore it to perfection is the lovely Kim Kardashian West. She’s a pretty petite woman (in some areas)…So I knew I would be able to pull off this look with my short torso. I found this great two-piece, paired it with some cute heels and added my POP of color…My bright coat.

If you want to replicate this look, I found the cutest two-piece plus-size set at Forever 21…check it out. For my petite and regular girls, check out Charlotte Russe for a real cute and inexpensive set.

Now, let me know what you think about this look, how you would have worn it differently or any suggestions that you have (comment below).

Be sure to follow me on Bloglovin for updates and follow me on Instagram and Snapchat (tinkrbe11e) and all emails and inquiries can be sent to funmis1@gmail.com.