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Mixologist: How to Wear Wide Leg Pants

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“How to wear wide leg pants is simple, put them on one foot at a time” 

Who doesn’t love a pair of wide leg pants?! Okay, honest moment, I used to HATE wide leg pants because I felt like they swallowed my petite frame and made me look shorter. But the moment I realized I was just styling them wrongly, a new world of possibilities opened up for me. Wide leg pants can be so chic and classy, and, they can elongate your frame. They can also make you look thinner as long as you know what to pair them with to achieve a body flattering look. In this post I want to give you three ways to wear this style and give you some options on where to buy some terrific wide leg pants.

  1. The first way to wear a pair of wide leg pants is as a monochromatic look. Maybe with a suit matching jacket or with the same color blouse and heels. A wide leg pant with a fitted matching suit jacket will give long lines and a chic look. A fitted jacket with the wide leg pants help to accentuate that waist line (and what girl doesn’t want an itty-bitty waist?!).
  2. The second way is to buy a pair of wide leg jeans and wear a belted shirt or crop top with it. Whenever you wear volume at the top or the bottom, you want to wear something a little more fitted to balance out your proportions so you don’t look big all over. A crop-top is a good way to go if you don’t mind a little midriff, but if you don’t want your tummy out, try a fitted bustier over a white shirt or a blouse that belts at the smallest part of your waist.
  3. Lastly stack those heels. Nothing makes a pair of legs look longer than a great set of heels. For my petite girls that want to give the wide leg pants another try, get a pair of platform heels to help make those legs look even longer. If you are on the taller side and don’t want to look taller, you can always wear a pair of flats to complete the look.

FYI a nice stripped fitted button down shirt tucked inside a pair of wide leg pants would also make a great work-day outfit. Take a look at some celebrities and stylist wearing the wide leg pants trend and get some inspiration from them.

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With this look I have on, I followed my second rule of the wide leg pants trend and paired my Splashed by DKG pants with a cropped ribbed long-sleeve sweater. Since it’s winter, I put a grey wool coat over it, wore a pair of Jessica Simpson grey d’Orsay pumps and finished it off with a fur and leather bag.

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I absolutely love this look because not only is it effortless, but, I look very thin wearing it. The wide leg pants elongate my frame and the cropped top gives me the illusion of a thinner waist (yes, I SAID ILLUSION). No six-pack yet, so I fake it until I make it.

Now, let me take a minute and talk about these pants designed by Derek and Daniel of Splashed by DKG. I LOVE THESE PANTS. As soon as I put them on I knew they did my body justice. I love that it’s a ruffle waist pair of wide leg pants and that they flatter my body and make me look longer and thinner. It’s red, which is the color of the season and the splashed texture gives it a whole lot of edge. Visit SplashedbyDKG to find out more about the company and shop their looks. You can also find them on Instagram Splashedbydkg.com

I hope these tips have helped you in some way or another. Don’t forget to share this with someone that might love to read it and comment below and let me know how you would wear this wide leg pants trend. Find me on Instagram at Oluwafunmifly

For collaborations, inquires or if you need advice or styling, email me at www.houseofodara.com.

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Forever Grateful: Lessons I’ve Learned This Past Year

ISSABIRTHDAYCELEBRATION and all I want to do is reflect on the lessons i’ve learned this past year

Y’all, I am a whole year older, a new year wiser and a new year happier. There is only one word that comes to mind today and that word is GRATEFUL! I am grateful for my life, I am grateful for my family, I am grateful for my friends and I am grateful for all of you! All I want to do is throw a dance party and praise God for all of His many blessings, love, protection and favor. As I reflect on the lessons i’ve learned this past year I am overwhelmed by how much i’ve grown, become more focused and learned to take things in stride. In this post I want to share with you the five lessons i’ve learned this past year of my life and I hope it helps you in some way.

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Here are the five lessons I’ve learned this past year and I’ll use my name FUNMI as an acronym:

  1. Focus on the Good: There are so many things that point you to the bad and teaches you to focus on what’s wrong with your life, but you have to train your mind to focus on the good all the time. The bad in your life that you don’t like, fix it if it can be fixed but don’t fixate on it. Allow the good to be on the forefront of your mind. Philippians 4:8 says that “whatever things are lovely, whatever things are pure, whatever things are of good report, that’s what you meditate on.” So, remind yourself that you are an AMAZING human and worthy of love, success and happiness.
  2. Understand Yourself: No one will know you better than you know you. I took this year out to find myself, to find out what I wanted to do with my life and figure out how I was going to make it happen. It doesn’t matter what age you are, introspection can happen at any time. So, find yourself, find your dream, find your purpose and everything else will fall into place.
  3. Never Give Up: You don’t know how many times this year I wanted to give up on this whole blogging endeavor. I am two years into this experience and sometimes I get so bogged down with the lack of “progress” that I just want to quit. But, I keep telling myself that someone else’s trajectory is not my trajectory; someone’s path is not my path. I have to remember lesson number one and focus on the good and that keeps me from giving up. Whether it’s your job, your husband, your friends, your dream, DON’T GIVE UP… success is right around the corner.
  4. Make Time For Family: In this world of busyness and Boss moves, we have to remember friends and family. We have to remember the people that helped us get where we are now. This one lesson I’ve learned this past year is very important! I have a one-year-old son and I have to make a choice to focus on him. I’m also married, and in the middle of all the whirlwind of my day, I have to make time to focus on him. We can’t win in the business, education or our sphere of influence and lose our families and friends in the process. Make time for what’s truly important.
  5. Influence Others: The best lesson I’ve learned this year is to influence those around me. I am just starting out in my journey in life with my baby, my husband and my blog but there is someone that needs what I have to offer. I try and use my influence for good and be an open book and an open door. If anyone needs help, advice or prayer, I’m always there to help. Real talk, the more you pour into others, the more you get out of it…SO GIVE OF YOURSELF SELFLESSLY!

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It’s a new year for me and these lessons I’ve learned this past year will go into 2018 with me. I will focus on the good, ignore the bad and love the ones who love me back. I plan on spending my birthday with my husband in Las Vegas for a couple of days and then coming back and hugging my son until he gets tired of me. I am so grateful to see another year and again, I am grateful for each and everyone of you who come week after week to read, comment and love on my blog and on me. You keep me going. Thank you!

Now that I’ve given you the five lessons I’ve learned this past year, I hope you’ll be able to take them into 2018 with you as well. My look today is very elegant and the color is perfect for the holidays and for my BURFDAY! I wanted to be elegant and dramatic. The skirt is Badgley Mischka from Dillards Department Store and my blouse was especially made by my friends and visionary Derek D’eandre. My heels are from Macy’s Department store. I hope you enjoyed this post and this look. Check out my last post on my favorite faux furs for this winter season HERE.

Hope y’all have a wonderful weekend. For collaborations email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com and find me on Instagram at Oluwafunmifly to see all the behind-the-scenes Vegas shenanigans.

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Budgetnista: Shopping On A Budget

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Shopping on a budget can feel like sleeping on hardwood floors, it can be done, but it’s no fun!

Who else loves to go window shopping knowing you can’t afford anything you’re looking at?! This is my life about 99% of the time. I’m the girl that will stare at a pair of $1,500 YSL pumps and know I can never bring them home. My husband on the other hand only ever looks at what he can afford. I literally get energized looking at high-end items, but then I get smart and look for the knock-off/less expensive version. Shopping on a budget can be hard at times, but it can also be very, very rewarding.

Friend, don’t sleep on those knock-off YSL boots or the Aldo quilted bag, they are just as beautiful as the quilted Chanel bag and you don’t have to eat ramen noodles of two months after buying them. However, if you can afford the Chanel bag, please slide in my DM and ship one to me (LOL). This post will talk about shopping on a budget and recreate this look for waaaaayyyyy less.

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When shopping on a budget, you can’t worry about labels. Labels are exactly that, Labels. Sometimes you can buy an off-brand items that’s even better than it’s more expensive counterpart. We can’t worry about what people think because your shoes aren’t red bottoms or or purse isn’t an expensive brand…if you like it, buy it! This outfit is from Sax Fifth and cost over a thousand dollars (I DID NOT BUY IT BUT IT WAS PULLED FOR THIS SHOOT).

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Theory Pink Velvet Blazer: $495.00

Theory Belted Cigarette Pants: $395.00

Alice + Olivia Classic Tee: $125.00

Now, this look is amazing but if you don’t have that kind of money to spend on only one outfit, you can find a similar look for more than half the price. Another thing to remember when shopping on a budget is be ready to look. Search online, in different stores and don’t be afraid to take the picture of the item to the store and ask if they have something similar to it.

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The last thing to remember when shopping on a  budget is to STICK TO THAT BUDGET! When you get out there you will se a lot of tempting options, but make a budget and don’t stray away from it. I like to take the exact amount of cash I plan on spending or put the exact amount on my Regions Now Card. That way, I can’t spend what I don’t physically have. Also, don’t be afraid to thrift or visit Plato’s closet for great second-hand items. I hope this post was helpful in some way and let me know if you decide to recreate this look. Check out my last post on inexpensive dresses for the holidays HERE!

If you or your company would like to collaborate with Houseofodara please email me at www.houseofodara.com or find me on Instagram at Oluwafunmifly

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Party Like A Rockstar: Inexpensive Dresses for the Holidays

“Inexpensive Dresses for the Holidays is the theme of this show…stay tuned!”

Listen Linda, I don’t know about you, but Thanksgiving was a working holiday for me. For the first time in years, I didn’t spend it with my family but I was in Atlanta working with Macy’s. It was amazing but I definitely missed all the love, food and family and hopefully next year i’ll be with them for Thanksgiving. However, I did enjoy two big plates the next day and I did get to enjoy Black Friday shopping with the masses. How was your Thanksgiving? I hope it was amazing. Now, that this holiday is over, It’s time to get ready for Christmas and all those awesome Christmas parties. This post will give you insight into some of the hottest trends of the season, and you can shop some of the best inexpensive dresses for the holidays.

One of the biggest trends of this season is crushed velvet clothing. I have seen so many celebrities wearing this trend and rocking it very well. I styled a velvet dress I got from Dillards with a pair of velvet, fuchsia, open-toe chunky heels and a velvet cropped jacket to on top of the dress. I finished off the look with a staple fuchsia Adachic Design quilted holiday clutch. This look was so easy to put together and is perfect for any holiday party that you get invited to attend.

inexpensive dresses for the holidaysCrushed velvet is so beautiful and will have you standing out at any holiday party you attend. This dress was very inexpensive and I am linking some other beautiful inexpensive crushed velvet dresses for the holidays down below.

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Inexpensive dresses for the holidays and holiday party can come in a lot of colors but one you need to try is the color RED. Pick a bright red dress and you will be sure to wow as soon as you enter the room. You can always top the look off with a solid black coat or a piece of fur for a little drama.

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Another great trend and inexpensive option is a comfortable but on-trend sweater dress. An embellished or off-shoulder sweater dress can be very sophisticated and a great option to wear to any occasion.

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When it comes to inexpensive dresses for the holidays, pick the one that’s not only comfortable but the one you know you’ll wear even after the holidays. These dresses would fit just about any occasion and event. Now, the last trend I want to show you is the glitter-bomb/shimmer party dress. This is for the girl that knows she just has to be the knockout when she enters the room (ummm that’s me).

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All these inexpensive dresses for the holidays are under $50.00, easy to wear and easy on the eyes. They will have you standing out at every holiday party.

Give these inexpensive dresses for the holidays a try and see what a statement you’ll make wearing them. Remember today is Small Business Saturday so visit your local boutiques and shops and spend some cash. Small businesses are the backbone of your communities and cities and they deserve all the support they can get. I am wearing a purse from a local business owner in Montgomery, Alabama. I did a blog post about them and you can read about it and shop their bags HERE. Have a good rest of your weekend and let me know what you think of this look.

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Shoephile: My New Favorite Shoes

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“My new favorite shoes should be in your cart and ready to go home with you!”

Let’s talk about my favorite new shoe shape called the D’orsay pump. I first fell in love with this shape when I purchased my pair of red Jessica Simpson pumps. A pump is considered D’orsay if one side or both sides is cut away to reveal the arch of the foot, and the vamp is very close to the toe box. Y’all, this shape is so gorgeous, feminine and easy to wear. I am a definite Shoephile and this blog is all about my new favorite shoes.

I bought my new favorite shoes almost two years ago and they are still as beautiful and comfortable to walk in as the day I bought them. These Jessica Simpson D’orsay heels are made of fine cow hairs in a cheetah print. I paired my new favorite shoes with a nude skirt, a faux leather jacket, and a bright orange H&M sweater. This look is effortless and perfect for a date night or a night out on the town. For colder climates, a pair of stockings would go perfectly with this look.
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With all of this nude and leopard, I wanted to break it up with a bright POP of color. My bright red H&M rib knit sweater did the trick. This sweater will be in heavy rotation all winter long. It’s not only comfortable and warm but the color is amazing and the material is breathable. One rule I like to implement when wearing this girly D’orsay shoe cut is to add a masculine touch to it. Whenever I wear this shoe cut, I try and implement some sort of leather to off set the hyper femininity of the heels. That’s just my rule but you can make up your own rule once you get your pair of my new favorite shoes.

So, what do you think about my new favorite shoes and this whole look. Are you a fan of the shoe cut or do you like a traditional pump? I hope this look inspired you to go and play in your closet and come up with something similar. You can always shop this look and tag houseofodara on FB for a repost.

Click HERE to shop the best gifts for men this holiday season.

For collaborations with your business, email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com.

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Worthy: How Do You Measure Your Self Worth?

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“How do you measure your self worth?”

Take a minute and answer this question to yourself. Really, stop reading and answer it. If someone put you in a room and told you to write down how you measure YOUR self-worth, what would you put down on that piece of paper? Is it based off your looks, your intellect, your accomplishments, the opinions of others, the amount of twitter and Facebook followers you have? How do you measure your self worth? The minute you find out the answer, hold on to it and it’s discuss it.

There is the parable about a old man who gave his son a precious ring. He told his son to take it to the market and take no less than one gold coin for the ring. The young man went to every market and every vendor and they all laughed him away and told him he was crazy and that the ring was only worth 5 silver coins. He went home disappointed and told his father he had failed. His father then told him to go to a an expert jeweler and find out the value of the ring but NOT to sell it for any reason. 

How do you measure your self worth?

The young man went to the jeweler and gave him the ring. The jeweler looked it over and offered the young man 50 gold coins. The young man was so surprised he could only stare at the jeweler. The jeweler then offered 70 gold coins and promised even more if the young man would agree and sell it right away. The son picked up his ring and went home to the father surprised and confused by jeweler’s offers. He told his father the news and his father laughed and said, “Son you can’t expect the fools at the markets and in the streets to ever know the worth of something as priceless as this jewel. Only an expert will ever know it’s true value.” Now, How do you measure your self worth? Is it the street value or the value of an expert evaluator?

This story is exactly what is happening in the world we live in. We look everywhere else for self-worth except at the two experts: God who created you, and yourself. We look at “role models” like Kim Kardashian or Nikki Minaj and when our body, face, hair or life doesn’t line up, we lose a little bit of self-esteem. When we see others doing better than us in life, on their jobs, in their families, we lose a little bit of self-esteem. Without even knowing, we are unconsciously measuring ourselves against a standard that was never meant for us. So, Let me ask again, how do you measure your self worth?

How do you measure your self worth?

If the measuring rod for YOUR self worth isn’t God and yourself, then throw the whole ruler away. Start all over. You will never measure up to the standards of any one else point-blank-period. You were made uniquely, differently and beautifully. Individual from your eyes all the way to your fingertips; there is no one else like you! Keep that in mind every time comparison tries to creep in. Pick up your Bible and read how you were wonderfully and beautifully made (Ps. 139) and how God knew you and had a plan for you before you were even born (Jeremiah 1:5). Put these scriptures and self-affirming words all over your mirror, house and doors and feed your spirit with them every day. Self worth is an inside job. It begins by building ourself up from the inside out. The minute you realize your self worth and value, you refuse to give others discounts and to discount yourself from all that is good in this world. 

You won’t be perfect if you’re skinnier, smarter, prettier, taller, etc. because you are ALREADY perfect! So, how do you measure your self worth? The way to measure your self-worth is by the Word of God and You. You must change how you see yourself, how you love yourself and how you treat yourself. Be your own best friend, be your own cheerleader and lift yourself up. In life, there are so many people and things that pull us down, don’t be one of those people and things…LOVE YOU AND OTHERS WILL LOVE YOU!

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I hope this helped someone out there. I write this because during the holidays, suicide and depression rates are at their highest. We have to learn to love ourselves, to lift ourselves up and remind ourselves of the intrinsic value that we have as human beings. We have to allow God to do the rest. When we are hopeless and feel worthless, ask God to reveal your value to you and He will. Share this post with someone who needs it and remember, I love you and hope and pray the best for you.

You can always reach out to me at houseofodara@gmail.com. Read the latest fashion blog post HERE!

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Thrifting 101: How I Styled My Thrifted Sweater

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“Thrifting 101 should be a pre-requisite for any fashion lover, stylist and shopaholic”

I’ve actually posted about how to be a thrifting queen before but the post was so popular I wanted to do it again. This post is called Thrifting 101 because I want to show you that thrifting is not gross or scary. When I first started thrifting, I hated the smell and the disorder, but now, I thrive in it because I know in the middle of that old-lady-smell and the clutter, treasures are awaiting me. So, let me tell you my 5 thrifting secrets that have worked for me these past two years.

The first rule of Thrifting 101 is to GO WITH AN OPEN MIND! This is NOT Saks Fifth or even Ross Dress for Less, so don’t expect neat, orderly and even clean (LOL)! Be ready to push clothes and people out of the way as you dig for the good stuff. The second rule of Thrifting 101 is to CARVE OUT TIME TO LOOK. You have to give yourself enough time to go down each aisle and look like someone told you there was a YSL sweater in the pile. Also, look at the schedule because most thrift stores have half-off days and percentages off different color tags. You cannot be in a rush to get in and get out…take the kids to your mum, free those hands, carry a small bag and get to WERK boo. This sweater I’m blogging was found at the Salvation Army in Hoover Alabama and after looking for 15 minutes I found it and did a little dance because it was worth the time.

Thrifting 101: How I styled my sweater two-ways

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The third rule of Thrifting 101 is to TRY EVERYTHING ON! So, I have yet to find a thrift store that allows you to return something because it doesn’t fit, so take the time and try it on. You can put it on over your clothes if you are worried about trying it on before you wash it, but make sure you know it fits BEFORE you take it home. This takes me to my fourth rule of thrifting, WASH/DRY CLEAN EVERYTHING AFTER YOU GET HOME. Side note: read the instructions on washing directions before you clean. My cousin bought a 100% silk shirt but didn’t realize the gold she had found so she washed and ruined it. So, make sure to read and find out what material your treasure is made of before you proceed.

Last rule for Thrifting 101 is TAKE A FRIEND! Two eyes are always better than one, so grab a girlfriend and put her to work. FYI also take hand sanitizer…i’m a mini germ freak so I always keep some in my purse. Now, i’ve styled my beautiful multi-colored knit sweater two ways. The first way is as a dress with a thick belt and thigh-high boots and the second way is as my color pop over a monochromatic look. I absolutely love this knit and it’s versatility and because I found it for less less than a Chick-fil-a sandwich. I hope these five rules help you in some way. Google thrift stores near you and take a field trip to one or two, you won’t be disappointed.

For gift ideas for men this holiday season, check out my last blog post HERE!

For collaborations and inquiries, please email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com. 

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Trenched: My Three Favorite Trench Coats this Fall


“My three favorite trench coats this fall should be on your holiday wish list to Santa”

I’ve celebrated a three year wedding anniversary and the first birthday of my son…so November has been very BUSY so far. Forgive me for not blogging as much as usual. Thank you again to everyone that takes the time to read, comment and show me love weekly, I appreciate you (virtual hugs all around). I am absolutely loving this fall weather and fashion and this post is all about my three favorite trench coats this Fall. Let’s get into it and hopefully you see something you have to have.

When buying a trench coat, the first thing I look for is color. I worry about how it fits AFTER I find the color i’m looking for. The first of my three favorite trench coats this fall is a pure white or  cream long trench. I usually try and look for a cream wool coat because it fits so well with so many outfits. The one i’m wearing in this blog is a cream wool coat I fought for at a thrift store. The second thing I look for is fit. Is the trench long enough? Does it look too baggy or does it fit me comfortably? Can I move my arms during worship or is it too tight? When I answer all this, I move on to the next hurdle…PRICE.

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When it comes to price, be ready to spend a little more. I usually go for a wool-blend trench coat because they tend to be less expensive but still beautiful and functional. You want this coat to last a long time so go for quality (be ready to spend money). These are my three favorite trench coats this fall and they are each worth the price tag.

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My shirt, pants, purse and sunnies are all from H&MMy boots are linked above for purchase. Don’t forget to check out my last post with my favorite gifts for men this holiday season: HERE 

Email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com to collaborate and find me on IG at Oluwafunmifly.

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Plaids Permitted: Falls Plaid Trend

“Plaids were a thing before they became ‘a thing’…”

Okay Instagram, we get it, Plaids are BAE right now. You know they say nothing in life is ever new, just recycled. Well, If you’re older than 25, you know that plaids have been a thing for a while, but now, they are making a resurgence. This post is all about how to wear Fall’s Plaid Trend like a Pro!

How to wear Fall's Plaid Trend Like a pro

Blake Lively just killed this trend last week. She wore a Ralph Lauren 2017 Fall menswear suit and layered plaid on plaid on plaid. She broke the look up with a maroon tie, brown Michael Kors alligator satchel and burgundy lace-up boots. I love the way she wore this fall plaid trend and I can’t wait to replicate it in my own way. First tip: one way to style this fall plaid trend is add bold or rich color to add some depth to it. Anything in the red family is always a hit with plaid.

Second Tip: when styling this fall plaid trend you can alway just wear one plaid piece over a simple dress, jumpsuit or skirt. I recently wore a Ralph Lauren plaid jacket over a pair of black tights and a graphic tee. It was simple, easy to wear but very on-trend.

 

 

Now, on to how Blake and I were on the same fashion wave length last week. I recently bought a plaid dress from Shein and knew I wanted to do layer it with my plaid jacket. I broke the look up with a black vintage velvet belt and of course a bright red H&M bag.

How to wear Fall's Plaid Trend Like a pro

I finished the look off with some old silver Sam Edelman booties that are so comfortable that I can literally run in them. This Fall’s plaid trend is one that anyone can pull off and look chic while doing it.

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This monochromatic look takes me back to my last Fall look on the blog called Sky-High-Thigh-Highs. I styled a black and white look with my favorite boots of all times, you can read and shop the look HERE. Remember with the plaid look, you can either keep it simple with one plaid piece or layer it with plaid on plaid but remember to always add a pop of color to help break up the look and add flavor to it. So, get in your closet and recreate this fall plaid trend. Happy Styling babes.

If you want to collaborate or need some styling tips or personal styling for events, reach out to me at www.houseofodarablog@gmail.com. 

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Embracing Jealousy

“I hate you, I hate you, I don’t know you and I hate you!”

Today, I’m going to tell you a story about how embracing jealousy changed my life! LOL…Don’t close the page, give me a chance to explain this to you. I don’t know how many of you ever watched “The Chappelle Show” back in early 2000’s. I was obsessed with it, even though it was a bit grown-up for me at that time. The Chappelle show was truth wrapped in a comedic shell and this formula made it very successful.

embracing jealousy: how to make it work for your goodMy favorite episode was the Player Hater’s Ball. I literally died laughing at that episode but in the middle of all that laughter, I learned a lot about embracing jealousy and turning it into motivation and NOT anger. The episode was all about a group of men that were so filled with hate they got awards for hating on someone’s success, looks and personality. I find in today’s society, people think that being a hater and being jealous and petty is very chic and cool. FYI it’s not! Jealousy can be a bad thing but when you embrace it you can actually turn it into motivation. 

So, no this post is not 101 ways to be a better hater…sorry!

Webster defines jealousy as a feeling of resentment because of someone else’s success, advantages, or because of a personal rivalry. LISTEN LINDA, WE ALL GET JEALOUS! Anyone that says they’ve never been jealous of someone else is lying. It’s okay to feel jealousy, it’s what you decide to do with it that makes the difference.

Here are 5 ways I learned to embrace jealousy and make it work for my good. 

  1. Compliment Your Rival: When it’s 10PM and you’re scrolling on social media and you see your friend is engaged, having a baby or got a promotion, don’t scroll by and roll your eyes, compliment them. Even if you don’t feel it, do it. Blessings come when we learn to rejoice with other people!
  2. Smell Yourself: My mum used to say if you travel and everywhere you go stinks, check your self because it might be you smelling. When jealousy creeps up, it’s because in some way or another we feel inadequate. We may be having a low self-esteem day and going online can sometimes make things worse. When insecurity creeps in, ask yourself “why do I feel this way and what can I do to build myself back up” Listen, when your self-esteem is low, log offline and get with a group of people that can uplift, pray and compliment you. 
  3. Let it Push You: There is nothing like jealousy to motivate you to do better. I remember seeing my friend that had a baby a month after me, and she was back in a size 6. I was sooooo mad at her and at myself and at my body but instead of taking it out on her and letting jealousy eat me up, I decided to embrace jealousy and let it push me to exercise. Embracing jealousy can turn “hateration” into greatness. 
  4. Talk It Out: Sometimes you just gotta talk it out with a friend. When you’re feeling inadequate and jealous of just about everyone and everything they have and you don’t have, get advice from your pastor, get prayer from a friend or grab a glass of wine and chat it out with girlfriends. Nothing soothes like being able to work things out with people you trust
  5. Love is Greater: Love conquers all things. So, if hate is creeping up on you, say no and choose love. Dr. Seidman wrote a great article on jealousy in a relationship setting entitled, ‘What’s really behind Jealousy and what to do about it” and if you and your spouse are dealing with this issue, read the article HERE

embracing jealousy: how to make it work for you

Remember, embracing jealousy is not always a bad thing when you learn to make it work for your good. Next time the green-eyed monster creeps up on you, remember these 5 steps and allow love to win.

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