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Embracing Jealousy

“I hate you, I hate you, I don’t know you and I hate you!”

Today, I’m going to tell you a story about how embracing jealousy changed my life! LOL…Don’t close the page, give me a chance to explain this to you. I don’t know how many of you ever watched “The Chappelle Show” back in early 2000’s. I was obsessed with it, even though it was a bit grown-up for me at that time. The Chappelle show was truth wrapped in a comedic shell and this formula made it very successful.

embracing jealousy: how to make it work for your goodMy favorite episode was the Player Hater’s Ball. I literally died laughing at that episode but in the middle of all that laughter, I learned a lot about embracing jealousy and turning it into motivation and NOT anger. The episode was all about a group of men that were so filled with hate they got awards for hating on someone’s success, looks and personality. I find in today’s society, people think that being a hater and being jealous and petty is very chic and cool. FYI it’s not! Jealousy can be a bad thing but when you embrace it you can actually turn it into motivation. 

So, no this post is not 101 ways to be a better hater…sorry!

Webster defines jealousy as a feeling of resentment because of someone else’s success, advantages, or because of a personal rivalry. LISTEN LINDA, WE ALL GET JEALOUS! Anyone that says they’ve never been jealous of someone else is lying. It’s okay to feel jealousy, it’s what you decide to do with it that makes the difference.

Here are 5 ways I learned to embrace jealousy and make it work for my good. 

  1. Compliment Your Rival: When it’s 10PM and you’re scrolling on social media and you see your friend is engaged, having a baby or got a promotion, don’t scroll by and roll your eyes, compliment them. Even if you don’t feel it, do it. Blessings come when we learn to rejoice with other people!
  2. Smell Yourself: My mum used to say if you travel and everywhere you go stinks, check your self because it might be you smelling. When jealousy creeps up, it’s because in some way or another we feel inadequate. We may be having a low self-esteem day and going online can sometimes make things worse. When insecurity creeps in, ask yourself “why do I feel this way and what can I do to build myself back up” Listen, when your self-esteem is low, log offline and get with a group of people that can uplift, pray and compliment you. 
  3. Let it Push You: There is nothing like jealousy to motivate you to do better. I remember seeing my friend that had a baby a month after me, and she was back in a size 6. I was sooooo mad at her and at myself and at my body but instead of taking it out on her and letting jealousy eat me up, I decided to embrace jealousy and let it push me to exercise. Embracing jealousy can turn “hateration” into greatness. 
  4. Talk It Out: Sometimes you just gotta talk it out with a friend. When you’re feeling inadequate and jealous of just about everyone and everything they have and you don’t have, get advice from your pastor, get prayer from a friend or grab a glass of wine and chat it out with girlfriends. Nothing soothes like being able to work things out with people you trust
  5. Love is Greater: Love conquers all things. So, if hate is creeping up on you, say no and choose love. Dr. Seidman wrote a great article on jealousy in a relationship setting entitled, ‘What’s really behind Jealousy and what to do about it” and if you and your spouse are dealing with this issue, read the article HERE

embracing jealousy: how to make it work for you

Remember, embracing jealousy is not always a bad thing when you learn to make it work for your good. Next time the green-eyed monster creeps up on you, remember these 5 steps and allow love to win.

Don’t forget about my last Fun-Facts post on “How to cuff the right way during cuffing season.” Click HERE to read all about it.

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Mix-It-Up

“I love a woman that knows how to mix prints like a BAWSE!”

Have you ever tried to mix prints, pattern and textures and just given up because it was too hard? This blog post is just for you. We will be talking about how to mix prints, and textures without looking like a clown. You may not be a fan of this trend, but it is here to stay and will definitely have you looking like a style pro…so give it a try and mix it up. Here are my 5 go-to rules on how to mix prints like a BOSS:

  1. Find prints with one or two common colors
  2. Find a pattern that super busy and one that is a little less busy
  3. Find items with a common background color: either light or dark background
  4. Pastel prints mixed together is an easy go-to look
  5. stripes and florals or stripes and stripes are always a YES

how to mix prints

In these pictures you’ll see celebrities from Solange to Blake Lively slaying and showing us how to wear mixed prints. All of them follow these simple five rules and they come out looking like they stepped right out of the pages of Vogue magazine (fyi: some of them probably did). This trend is not hard. I want you to give it a try and see how fun playing with prints can really be.

how to mix prints like a pro

My look today is a nod to the mixed print trend. I paired a printed peplum blouse with a textured bottom and ended up with this amazing and chic look. My shirt is going to be in my collection ShakaraFAB that will be available next summer for purchase. The pants are from Dillards, the shoes Amazon, and everything else will be down at the bottom for purchase.

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So, do you think you are daring enough to give this trend a try?! Now that you have the rules in hand, go into that closet and pull out some clothes and start mixing. I look forward to seeing what you come up with. Tag House of Odara on Facebook and find me on Instagram at Oluwafunmifly.

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Issa.Celebration

“Every day is a celebration when you have the right bag”

Today on the blog, I am showing you how to style a floor-length wrap dress with a plunging neckline and a colorful-textured bag. I received this bag to style for a local business owner and entrepreneur and I fell in love with it as soon as I received it. The bag is PHENOMENAL! it’s heavy, well-made and a topic starter. It definitely makes a statement no matter how and where you wear it.

Let’s begin with this beautiful plunging neckline dress. It’s a Gianni Bini wrap dress that is a little too long for me but the color was too rich to pass up. I began by layering the dress with a gold, jewel-encrusted undershirt and finished it some sky-high, ankle-strap heels. I don’t know about you, but I’m not really a plunging-neckline type of girl so I always layer to hide my décolletage. One tip when layering an outfit is put a shirt underneath that has a pattern or is jewel-encrusted or has texture to it. It just adds a little something extra to the look. For my petite girls, a sky-high heel and a long dress with a slit is your best friend; it helps elongate your frame. Another tip: if your dress has a split, find a pair of sexy heels and let them legs show!

how to style a plunging neckline and colorful bag

I love how there are little accents of gold from my bag to my shoe to my undershirt.

Now, Let’s talk about how to style this colorful bag. I recently did a post on Adachicdesigns and you can read all about it HERE! This bag is one of my favorite bags i’ve styled so far because it makes a statement all by itself. I love this colorful piece because I don’t have to do much to make it stand out. Last tip, when styling a colorful bag, try and keep everything else simple, unless of course you love styling different prints and textures. You can pair this bag with a little black dress or to be more edgy, pair it with a patterned dress. Check out the site www.adachicdesigns.com to purchase your own special bag.

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So, comment below and let me know what you think about this look and the bag. If you purchase one, tag House of Odara and Adachicdesigns for a chance to be featured on the page.

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Fringetober

Is it me or did this year go by like cash in your wallet?

It’s a new month and we have a little over two months before 2018. Ya’ll, I feel like I was just dancing in the new year and now it’s almost over and I actually haven’t even finished all my “New Years Goals” list. Jesus help me. Oh, well…I still have this month and November and December to get things done. But, let’s move on to this October-worthy dress.

This post is all about one of my favorite fall trends…FRINGE. I love this trend because it is just so fun. I’m all about a dress that moves and gives dimension from every angle. You can’t help but have all eyes on you when you walk into a room dripping with fringe-goodness. When I shot this look in Birmingham, I had so many men and women stop me to ask me where I got the dress from. Well, you guys have the inside scoop. This dress is just $54.99 (yells into pillow).

 

This dress is so amazing and the sheen and shimmer is perfect for a night out on the town or a special event. I added a t-strap Gianni Bini heels and a simple gold clutch. I let the dress pave the way and kept everything else simple. FYI, this dress also comes as a jumpsuit too (it’s already in my Amazon cart).

So, who else is fearless enough to give this fun dress a try?! Let me know if you order it and tag House of Odara when you wear it. Find on Instagram: Oluwafunmifly and go like my Facebook page: House of Odara.

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Form-Fitting…No Problem

“I like my clothes like I like my money, stretchable”

Let’s jump right into one of my favorite topics…Lycra. Okay, today i’m talking about what to look for when you buy form-fitting jeans and dresses and how to wear it without looking round or lumpy. As a new mummy, wearing stretch denim or dresses scared me because of my weight gain and the shape of my new body. Big dresses and sweats were my BFF’s until I realized I could still be a hot mama I just needed to pick the right items, pair it well and accentuate the good.

You don’t have to be afraid of stretch material because it’s a actually a girls best friend. When buying a pair of jeans, a 3-4% stretch is what you need. The lycra will help shape your legs and stomach and give you a great shape. Stretch is your BFF whether you are curvy, petite, tall or in-between.

When designers Daniel and Derek of SplashedbyDKG sent me a dress to blog for them, I almost screamed when I saw that it was a dark blue stretchy material. I thought how am I going to wear this without making my body look round? Well, duh, when in doubt, BELT IT.

The beautiful thing about belts is that they help cinch in that waist and give the illusion of an hourglass figure. You want to wear the belt at the smallest part of your waistline and let the magic happen. After I put the dress on and let go of my phobia, I realized it shaped to me so well and the slinky material was flattering as well as super comfortable. The thing I was so afraid of ended being my favorite asset. I found a pair of sexy Forever21 heels, a tulle sock and my fur jacket to add a little bit more drama to this look and voila, magic!. The dress will be sold at the Magic City Market today from 12-4 at the Goldstein and Cohen Building at 406 19th St Ensley, Birmingham, AL 35218. I hope to see you guys there. 

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Velvet Studded T-Strap Heels

So, don’t be afraid of form-fitting clothes. Learn to pair them with something that accentuates the good, like a great belt or a crop jacket, blazer or cape. My friend Aliscia, who is a bit curvier paired her with a trench and gold belt. She made the look her own and killed it as well. This is the same dress, two different body shapes, two different styles but both are amazing.

 

Let me know if I’ll be seeing you at 12PM at the Magic City Market and come find me if you come. Let me know if you plan on recreating this beautiful look and again, don’t be afraid of the stretch, it can be your best friend if done the right way. For collaborations, email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com

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Sweater Weather

“I can smell Autumn dancing in the breeze”

Happy Sunday Lovies, please take a minute and say a prayer for this planet that we inhabit. There have been natural disasters from Houston, TX all the way to Sierra Leone, Africa. Let’s pray for the wellbeing and restoration of health, home and family for those affected by the storms world-wide.

This weeks look is another simple one. It’s all about sweaters and fall boots. I found a gold knitted sweater at my local Salvation Army thrift store and knew it would be perfect for the Fall weather. The sweater is not too heavy and could be worn with a undershirt beneath it. The gold color is also one of my favorites for the Fall. I put it with a Forever21 red pleated skirt and a short brown pair of old Jessica Simpson booties. I love this simple look.

Linked below is a F21 pleated skirt and a comparable sweater both for $15.99. I also linked a pair of boots that are perfect for the fall. My vintage Dooney and Bourke is old but any great leather bag would go perfect with this look.

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Pleated Mini Skirt    Waffle Knit Sweater

Remember Fall is all about layering. My skirt is short and my sweater is long and warm. The booties are short because it’s not cold enough for thigh-highs. Play round with summer items you have in your closet and pair them with boots, sweater, jackets, etc…layer, layer, layer. Let me know what you think of this look and how you plan on revamping your summer clothes into Fall pieces.

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Shakara.FAB

“Entrepreneur: someone who jumps off a cliff and builds a plane on their way down”

I once heard someone say if you don’t see a door, then build one and walk though it. As humans, we like to sit there and wait and wait and wait for a door to arrive. FYI, It’s never coming. Get up and make room for yourself.

I saw a movie called “Joy” yesterday and it motivated me to go for greatness. It was about the life of Joy Mangano, a business woman, author, entrepreneur, and inventor. She began as a broke, mother of two, divorcee with a crazy family that never supported her dreams. She took all the lemons life gave her and made a million dollar jar of lemonade. This movie motivated me like never before. What I got from it is that if you want something, you have to get up and GRAB IT FOR YOURSELF! 


Now, Welcome the new Endeavor that I am going to make a multimillion dollar industry: Shakara FAB. My sister and I were born in Lagos, Nigeria and have always had a passion for fashion, entrepreneurship and bringing our culture to those around us. We have lived in the US for 20 plus years and now after much work, prayer and determination, we are going to make this vision a reality.

We have teamed up with our cousin Ashlen of HeyGirlHey and our close family friend Claudia Olojo of King_Queen_Melenin. Our mission is to bring authentic, African-made clothing to our friends, family and people in our sphere of influence. Shakira FAB will be a success because we will make it so by the grace of God.

This look is one of the dresses that will be available from petite to plus size. I love the shape of this dress and the way it accentuates your waist and hips. It gives you an hourglass shape even if you don’t really have one (like me). Now, let’s talk, comment below what you would like to see from us and what problems you want fixed with the fashion industry and it’s representation of all sizes and shapes. We will take your comments and make sure our designs fits everyone.

So, would you wear this dress?! Why or why not, and what would you like to see from our brand Shakara FAB. Again, thank you all for all your support and help. We love your feedback and input and will use it to better us and give you what you want.

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D.4.Dedication

“You can’t reach the top without climbing the steps”

Happy Labor day Lovies! I hope you all have a safe and productive day, filled with food, fun, family and fashion. Okay, so you know that saying that you can’t wear white after labor day, throw it out the window with along with all the other antiquated fashion rules. In the winter, I love an all white outfit with white trimmed fur…Yes, i’m that girl… #teamoverthetop.

This blog post is called “Dedication” because I want to talk about becoming a more dedicated person. So you know that girl or guy that’s always at conferences, reading all the self-help books but never does anything with it? I used to be that person. I couldn’t dedicate myself to anything for long periods of time. I wanted the success without the handwork. Who else is like that? I wanted to be at the top of the mountain without having to actually climb it. Life DOES NOT work that way. Whatever you want to accomplish, you have to put in hard work and dedication. The first thing that helped me become more dedicated was coming up with a calendar of things I want to do daily. The second thing was setting aside a day to work on one project. No matter what, every Monday, I work on my blog; no excuses, no procrastination. So, find a day of the week to dedicate yourself to ONE goal and JUST DO IT!

Today’s look is simple and very easy to replicate. If you have a summer dress, pull it out of your closet and pair it with a pair of booties for a nice Fall look. You can add a nice jacket or tights if the weather is a bit more chilly. I have found some perfect summer dresses on sale both are under $25.00 and the booties are PERFECT for a transitional look everyone will envy.

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Floral Lace-Trim Dress      Plus Size Floral Shirt Dress       Pointed Toe Stiletto Boots

Like I said, both dresses are perfect transitional pieces. A little belt can take the outfit a long way and fyi, those boots are a must-have for fall because they are really comfortable and absolutely gorgeous. What are some Fall looks you are looking forward to this year? Don’t forget to check out my Fall Must-Haves: HERE

So, Let’s make this September the month of Dedication to our goals and dreams. Let me know what goals you’re going to dedicate your time, effort and money into and how you plan on doing it. If you recreate this look, let me know. Find me on IG: Oluwafunmifly and tag me in it or on Facebook at House of Odara.

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NewMonth.Who’sThis?

“New Month, New hair, Who is this?”

Hello September, I’ve been waiting on you at the door. I am so ready for cooler weather and Fall season all summer long. In my hometown, we’ve been experiencing thunderstorms and last night we even had a tornado watch. I woke up this morning to torn branches and debris everywhere. My heart and prayer and support goes out to those in Texas suffering under the destruction of Hurricane Harvey. If you live in Birmingham, please support by going to the Boutwell Auditorium at 1930 Reverend Abraham Woods Jr. Blvd, Birmingham, AL 35203. They are asking for canned goods, perishable items, clothes, etc that they can send to those in need. They will be accepting donations until Sunday evening. If you live in any other state or city, please find out where you can donate and be a hand in need.

Did you all catch my last blog on my favorite Fall item? If you didn’t, click HERE. This look today is sponsored by my favorite designers Derek and Daniel of Splashed by DKG. I am wearing their fabulous denim kimono skater blouse. I love the shape of this piece. I love the big beautiful bell sleeves and the structured bottom of the blouse. I belted it to give it some shape and accentuate my waist. I’ve seen it worn unbelted and that looked great as well. I completed the look with some lace shorts underneath and these ultra sexy jean boots from Amazon.

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This look is so different from my normal wear but that’s the beauty of style. Never be afraid to mix it up and step out of your comfort zone. Check out their website HERE for buying options and to look at their other pieces.

So, what’s something new you plan on doing this month that you’ve never done before? Whether it’s changing your wardrobe, exercising more, meeting new people or simply getting out more, in the words of Michal Jordan…JUST DO IT! I pray this month is blessed, full of favor and riches.

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Fall.Into.Fashion

“Hoodies, Bonfires, Cuddling…Fall is here”

I stepped outside of my apartment Saturday and It was legitimately not hot…lol!. Okay, it wasn’t sweater or even jacket weather, but I felt a small coolness in the air. Here in the South, we hardly ever get a REAL Fall or a REAL Winter. In the South, Summer is King! Still, we have to get ready for some Fall fashion, and I am giving you some of the must-haves for this season. For my friends in the North, i’m sure you are already ready for the cooler weather.

Okay, the first item I stock up on in the Fall and Winter are booties. I love them in every color, style and shape. I own a lot of them but the one i’m crushing on this season is a pair of lace up, imitation Yeezy Season IV ankle boots. I found a pair at Forever21 and they were a must buy. Kim K has been wearing them all summer long. Kim if you are reading this, please send me a pair…i’ll DM you my info (send prayers up y’all). The pair from Forever21 is a LOT cheaper.

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So, i’m obsessed with every pair of booties on this list. But, for those who want a little more coverage on their legs, knee and thigh-high boots are a must have. I have a pair of silver ones on the list that are a bit daring but I plan on wearing them SOON!:

Libby Peeptoe Sock Thigh High BootsVictoria Denim Peeptoe Thigh High Boots

Next, another of my Fall must-haves is a good faux-fur jacket and Trench Coat:

Alisha Shaggy Faux Fur CoatEmily Faux Fur Collar Wool Look CoatVanessa Double Breasted Belted Trench Coat

Okay, so it is definitely time for sweaters and sweater dresses. Even though I am NOT a sweater dress person, I know how easy, comfortable and warm they can be, especially with a pair of boots. Here are some affordable sweaters and sweater dresses:

Poppy Ruffle Sleeve Sweater
Black Color Block Bell Sleeve Ruffle Hem Sweater DressFold Over Bardot Sweater Dress

Another Fall must-haves are all the accessories and accouterments that come along with cooler weather. I live for a good scarf, leggings, tights, leg warmers and gloves. Also I love a super sturdy winter bag:
Graphic Print Oversized Scarf


Mia Faux Fur Cross Body Bag


Lastly, I want to give some ON TREND buys that I have found on Amazon for way less. These are trends that have debuted on the runway for Fall/Winter 2017. I’m giving you the four trends that I like so far and will be wearing. Remember, not every trend has to be followed; find what fits you and your style best. The first trend is dark, romantic florals. Next is fringe; who doesn’t love fabric that moves. Next is the cold or one shoulder look. Lastly is the Glitter-bomb trend (YAY)! Anything with glitter is my friend and I love this last dress because it’s fringe and glitter mixed together. Look at the Fall trends for 2017 and pick which ones you like and rock it with your bad self!



Remember, during the Fall and Winter, layer as much as possible. Put on an under shirt with an oversized sweater, a pair of great jeans or leggings and some booties, and you’ll be fashionable and warm all winter long. All these looks are affordable and will have you looking fabulous and stylish. So, what are you looking forward to purchasing and wearing this Fall/Winter season? Comment below and let me know.

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