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Forever Grateful: Lessons I’ve Learned This Past Year

ISSABIRTHDAYCELEBRATION and all I want to do is reflect on the lessons i’ve learned this past year

Y’all, I am a whole year older, a new year wiser and a new year happier. There is only one word that comes to mind today and that word is GRATEFUL! I am grateful for my life, I am grateful for my family, I am grateful for my friends and I am grateful for all of you! All I want to do is throw a dance party and praise God for all of His many blessings, love, protection and favor. As I reflect on the lessons i’ve learned this past year I am overwhelmed by how much i’ve grown, become more focused and learned to take things in stride. In this post I want to share with you the five lessons i’ve learned this past year of my life and I hope it helps you in some way.

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Here are the five lessons I’ve learned this past year and I’ll use my name FUNMI as an acronym:

  1. Focus on the Good: There are so many things that point you to the bad and teaches you to focus on what’s wrong with your life, but you have to train your mind to focus on the good all the time. The bad in your life that you don’t like, fix it if it can be fixed but don’t fixate on it. Allow the good to be on the forefront of your mind. Philippians 4:8 says that “whatever things are lovely, whatever things are pure, whatever things are of good report, that’s what you meditate on.” So, remind yourself that you are an AMAZING human and worthy of love, success and happiness.
  2. Understand Yourself: No one will know you better than you know you. I took this year out to find myself, to find out what I wanted to do with my life and figure out how I was going to make it happen. It doesn’t matter what age you are, introspection can happen at any time. So, find yourself, find your dream, find your purpose and everything else will fall into place.
  3. Never Give Up: You don’t know how many times this year I wanted to give up on this whole blogging endeavor. I am two years into this experience and sometimes I get so bogged down with the lack of “progress” that I just want to quit. But, I keep telling myself that someone else’s trajectory is not my trajectory; someone’s path is not my path. I have to remember lesson number one and focus on the good and that keeps me from giving up. Whether it’s your job, your husband, your friends, your dream, DON’T GIVE UP… success is right around the corner.
  4. Make Time For Family: In this world of busyness and Boss moves, we have to remember friends and family. We have to remember the people that helped us get where we are now. This one lesson I’ve learned this past year is very important! I have a one-year-old son and I have to make a choice to focus on him. I’m also married, and in the middle of all the whirlwind of my day, I have to make time to focus on him. We can’t win in the business, education or our sphere of influence and lose our families and friends in the process. Make time for what’s truly important.
  5. Influence Others: The best lesson I’ve learned this year is to influence those around me. I am just starting out in my journey in life with my baby, my husband and my blog but there is someone that needs what I have to offer. I try and use my influence for good and be an open book and an open door. If anyone needs help, advice or prayer, I’m always there to help. Real talk, the more you pour into others, the more you get out of it…SO GIVE OF YOURSELF SELFLESSLY!

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It’s a new year for me and these lessons I’ve learned this past year will go into 2018 with me. I will focus on the good, ignore the bad and love the ones who love me back. I plan on spending my birthday with my husband in Las Vegas for a couple of days and then coming back and hugging my son until he gets tired of me. I am so grateful to see another year and again, I am grateful for each and everyone of you who come week after week to read, comment and love on my blog and on me. You keep me going. Thank you!

Now that I’ve given you the five lessons I’ve learned this past year, I hope you’ll be able to take them into 2018 with you as well. My look today is very elegant and the color is perfect for the holidays and for my BURFDAY! I wanted to be elegant and dramatic. The skirt is Badgley Mischka from Dillards Department Store and my blouse was especially made by my friends and visionary Derek D’eandre. My heels are from Macy’s Department store. I hope you enjoyed this post and this look. Check out my last post on my favorite faux furs for this winter season HERE.

Hope y’all have a wonderful weekend. For collaborations email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com and find me on Instagram at Oluwafunmifly to see all the behind-the-scenes Vegas shenanigans.

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Budgetnista: Shopping On A Budget

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Shopping on a budget can feel like sleeping on hardwood floors, it can be done, but it’s no fun!

Who else loves to go window shopping knowing you can’t afford anything you’re looking at?! This is my life about 99% of the time. I’m the girl that will stare at a pair of $1,500 YSL pumps and know I can never bring them home. My husband on the other hand only ever looks at what he can afford. I literally get energized looking at high-end items, but then I get smart and look for the knock-off/less expensive version. Shopping on a budget can be hard at times, but it can also be very, very rewarding.

Friend, don’t sleep on those knock-off YSL boots or the Aldo quilted bag, they are just as beautiful as the quilted Chanel bag and you don’t have to eat ramen noodles of two months after buying them. However, if you can afford the Chanel bag, please slide in my DM and ship one to me (LOL). This post will talk about shopping on a budget and recreate this look for waaaaayyyyy less.

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When shopping on a budget, you can’t worry about labels. Labels are exactly that, Labels. Sometimes you can buy an off-brand items that’s even better than it’s more expensive counterpart. We can’t worry about what people think because your shoes aren’t red bottoms or or purse isn’t an expensive brand…if you like it, buy it! This outfit is from Sax Fifth and cost over a thousand dollars (I DID NOT BUY IT BUT IT WAS PULLED FOR THIS SHOOT).

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Theory Pink Velvet Blazer: $495.00

Theory Belted Cigarette Pants: $395.00

Alice + Olivia Classic Tee: $125.00

Now, this look is amazing but if you don’t have that kind of money to spend on only one outfit, you can find a similar look for more than half the price. Another thing to remember when shopping on a budget is be ready to look. Search online, in different stores and don’t be afraid to take the picture of the item to the store and ask if they have something similar to it.

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The last thing to remember when shopping on a  budget is to STICK TO THAT BUDGET! When you get out there you will se a lot of tempting options, but make a budget and don’t stray away from it. I like to take the exact amount of cash I plan on spending or put the exact amount on my Regions Now Card. That way, I can’t spend what I don’t physically have. Also, don’t be afraid to thrift or visit Plato’s closet for great second-hand items. I hope this post was helpful in some way and let me know if you decide to recreate this look. Check out my last post on inexpensive dresses for the holidays HERE!

If you or your company would like to collaborate with Houseofodara please email me at www.houseofodara.com or find me on Instagram at Oluwafunmifly

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Party Like A Rockstar: Inexpensive Dresses for the Holidays

“Inexpensive Dresses for the Holidays is the theme of this show…stay tuned!”

Listen Linda, I don’t know about you, but Thanksgiving was a working holiday for me. For the first time in years, I didn’t spend it with my family but I was in Atlanta working with Macy’s. It was amazing but I definitely missed all the love, food and family and hopefully next year i’ll be with them for Thanksgiving. However, I did enjoy two big plates the next day and I did get to enjoy Black Friday shopping with the masses. How was your Thanksgiving? I hope it was amazing. Now, that this holiday is over, It’s time to get ready for Christmas and all those awesome Christmas parties. This post will give you insight into some of the hottest trends of the season, and you can shop some of the best inexpensive dresses for the holidays.

One of the biggest trends of this season is crushed velvet clothing. I have seen so many celebrities wearing this trend and rocking it very well. I styled a velvet dress I got from Dillards with a pair of velvet, fuchsia, open-toe chunky heels and a velvet cropped jacket to on top of the dress. I finished off the look with a staple fuchsia Adachic Design quilted holiday clutch. This look was so easy to put together and is perfect for any holiday party that you get invited to attend.

inexpensive dresses for the holidaysCrushed velvet is so beautiful and will have you standing out at any holiday party you attend. This dress was very inexpensive and I am linking some other beautiful inexpensive crushed velvet dresses for the holidays down below.

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Inexpensive dresses for the holidays and holiday party can come in a lot of colors but one you need to try is the color RED. Pick a bright red dress and you will be sure to wow as soon as you enter the room. You can always top the look off with a solid black coat or a piece of fur for a little drama.

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Another great trend and inexpensive option is a comfortable but on-trend sweater dress. An embellished or off-shoulder sweater dress can be very sophisticated and a great option to wear to any occasion.

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When it comes to inexpensive dresses for the holidays, pick the one that’s not only comfortable but the one you know you’ll wear even after the holidays. These dresses would fit just about any occasion and event. Now, the last trend I want to show you is the glitter-bomb/shimmer party dress. This is for the girl that knows she just has to be the knockout when she enters the room (ummm that’s me).

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All these inexpensive dresses for the holidays are under $50.00, easy to wear and easy on the eyes. They will have you standing out at every holiday party.

Give these inexpensive dresses for the holidays a try and see what a statement you’ll make wearing them. Remember today is Small Business Saturday so visit your local boutiques and shops and spend some cash. Small businesses are the backbone of your communities and cities and they deserve all the support they can get. I am wearing a purse from a local business owner in Montgomery, Alabama. I did a blog post about them and you can read about it and shop their bags HERE. Have a good rest of your weekend and let me know what you think of this look.

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Shoephile: My New Favorite Shoes

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“My new favorite shoes should be in your cart and ready to go home with you!”

Let’s talk about my favorite new shoe shape called the D’orsay pump. I first fell in love with this shape when I purchased my pair of red Jessica Simpson pumps. A pump is considered D’orsay if one side or both sides is cut away to reveal the arch of the foot, and the vamp is very close to the toe box. Y’all, this shape is so gorgeous, feminine and easy to wear. I am a definite Shoephile and this blog is all about my new favorite shoes.

I bought my new favorite shoes almost two years ago and they are still as beautiful and comfortable to walk in as the day I bought them. These Jessica Simpson D’orsay heels are made of fine cow hairs in a cheetah print. I paired my new favorite shoes with a nude skirt, a faux leather jacket, and a bright orange H&M sweater. This look is effortless and perfect for a date night or a night out on the town. For colder climates, a pair of stockings would go perfectly with this look.
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With all of this nude and leopard, I wanted to break it up with a bright POP of color. My bright red H&M rib knit sweater did the trick. This sweater will be in heavy rotation all winter long. It’s not only comfortable and warm but the color is amazing and the material is breathable. One rule I like to implement when wearing this girly D’orsay shoe cut is to add a masculine touch to it. Whenever I wear this shoe cut, I try and implement some sort of leather to off set the hyper femininity of the heels. That’s just my rule but you can make up your own rule once you get your pair of my new favorite shoes.

So, what do you think about my new favorite shoes and this whole look. Are you a fan of the shoe cut or do you like a traditional pump? I hope this look inspired you to go and play in your closet and come up with something similar. You can always shop this look and tag houseofodara on FB for a repost.

Click HERE to shop the best gifts for men this holiday season.

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Plaids Permitted: Falls Plaid Trend

“Plaids were a thing before they became ‘a thing’…”

Okay Instagram, we get it, Plaids are BAE right now. You know they say nothing in life is ever new, just recycled. Well, If you’re older than 25, you know that plaids have been a thing for a while, but now, they are making a resurgence. This post is all about how to wear Fall’s Plaid Trend like a Pro!

How to wear Fall's Plaid Trend Like a pro

Blake Lively just killed this trend last week. She wore a Ralph Lauren 2017 Fall menswear suit and layered plaid on plaid on plaid. She broke the look up with a maroon tie, brown Michael Kors alligator satchel and burgundy lace-up boots. I love the way she wore this fall plaid trend and I can’t wait to replicate it in my own way. First tip: one way to style this fall plaid trend is add bold or rich color to add some depth to it. Anything in the red family is always a hit with plaid.

Second Tip: when styling this fall plaid trend you can alway just wear one plaid piece over a simple dress, jumpsuit or skirt. I recently wore a Ralph Lauren plaid jacket over a pair of black tights and a graphic tee. It was simple, easy to wear but very on-trend.

 

 

Now, on to how Blake and I were on the same fashion wave length last week. I recently bought a plaid dress from Shein and knew I wanted to do layer it with my plaid jacket. I broke the look up with a black vintage velvet belt and of course a bright red H&M bag.

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I finished the look off with some old silver Sam Edelman booties that are so comfortable that I can literally run in them. This Fall’s plaid trend is one that anyone can pull off and look chic while doing it.

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This monochromatic look takes me back to my last Fall look on the blog called Sky-High-Thigh-Highs. I styled a black and white look with my favorite boots of all times, you can read and shop the look HERE. Remember with the plaid look, you can either keep it simple with one plaid piece or layer it with plaid on plaid but remember to always add a pop of color to help break up the look and add flavor to it. So, get in your closet and recreate this fall plaid trend. Happy Styling babes.

If you want to collaborate or need some styling tips or personal styling for events, reach out to me at www.houseofodarablog@gmail.com. 

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SKY-HIGH-THIGH-HIGH BOOTS

“Thigh-highs are like gloves for the legs…they keep them nice and cozy”

How do you wear sky-high-thigh-high boots without looking like you’re on your way to your night job as a featured dancer?! hahaha! Well, let me tell you how in this wonderful piece i’m calling sky-high-thigh-highs. Thigh-high boots are not only a great fall trend, but they are functional and actually serve a purpose. I love them because when I wear a short skirt, dress or shorts in the fall, they keep my legs warm and give me some modesty. Growing up with a Nigerian mum, having your legs, thighs or décolletage out was the mortal sin (Chai, hell fire awaits you daughter).

Do not be afraid of the thigh high trend. It’s actually a fun and sexy way to be both warm and fashionable. The problem a lot of us thicker-legged women run into is that sky-high-thigh-high boots never fit over our calf muscles and juicy juicy yams. Well that is why the Lycra boot is going to be your BFF.

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Studded Faux Leather Jacket

These red sky-high-thigh-high boots have been so popular because not only do they stretch to the GAWDS, but they come in some really beautiful colors. I’ve never found boots that zip all the way up and cover my whole dark-meat legs. But, these ones just slid right on up with ease and they actually feel good on your bare legs. If you don’t have a pair of lycra boots in your shoe arsenal….GET YOU SOME BOO!!!! 

Now that you see how I rocked my sky-high-thigh-high lycra boots, how would you have worn them. Let me know what you think about this trend, if you would ever be caught dead in thigh-high boots or if you already own several of them. Like I said, for my thick girls, stretch thigh-high boots are going to be your best friend all season long so invest in a good pair of them. If you missed the last post on how to channel jealousy into motivation, click HERE to read it.

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Embracing Jealousy

“I hate you, I hate you, I don’t know you and I hate you!”

Today, I’m going to tell you a story about how embracing jealousy changed my life! LOL…Don’t close the page, give me a chance to explain this to you. I don’t know how many of you ever watched “The Chappelle Show” back in early 2000’s. I was obsessed with it, even though it was a bit grown-up for me at that time. The Chappelle show was truth wrapped in a comedic shell and this formula made it very successful.

embracing jealousy: how to make it work for your goodMy favorite episode was the Player Hater’s Ball. I literally died laughing at that episode but in the middle of all that laughter, I learned a lot about embracing jealousy and turning it into motivation and NOT anger. The episode was all about a group of men that were so filled with hate they got awards for hating on someone’s success, looks and personality. I find in today’s society, people think that being a hater and being jealous and petty is very chic and cool. FYI it’s not! Jealousy can be a bad thing but when you embrace it you can actually turn it into motivation. 

So, no this post is not 101 ways to be a better hater…sorry!

Webster defines jealousy as a feeling of resentment because of someone else’s success, advantages, or because of a personal rivalry. LISTEN LINDA, WE ALL GET JEALOUS! Anyone that says they’ve never been jealous of someone else is lying. It’s okay to feel jealousy, it’s what you decide to do with it that makes the difference.

Here are 5 ways I learned to embrace jealousy and make it work for my good. 

  1. Compliment Your Rival: When it’s 10PM and you’re scrolling on social media and you see your friend is engaged, having a baby or got a promotion, don’t scroll by and roll your eyes, compliment them. Even if you don’t feel it, do it. Blessings come when we learn to rejoice with other people!
  2. Smell Yourself: My mum used to say if you travel and everywhere you go stinks, check your self because it might be you smelling. When jealousy creeps up, it’s because in some way or another we feel inadequate. We may be having a low self-esteem day and going online can sometimes make things worse. When insecurity creeps in, ask yourself “why do I feel this way and what can I do to build myself back up” Listen, when your self-esteem is low, log offline and get with a group of people that can uplift, pray and compliment you. 
  3. Let it Push You: There is nothing like jealousy to motivate you to do better. I remember seeing my friend that had a baby a month after me, and she was back in a size 6. I was sooooo mad at her and at myself and at my body but instead of taking it out on her and letting jealousy eat me up, I decided to embrace jealousy and let it push me to exercise. Embracing jealousy can turn “hateration” into greatness. 
  4. Talk It Out: Sometimes you just gotta talk it out with a friend. When you’re feeling inadequate and jealous of just about everyone and everything they have and you don’t have, get advice from your pastor, get prayer from a friend or grab a glass of wine and chat it out with girlfriends. Nothing soothes like being able to work things out with people you trust
  5. Love is Greater: Love conquers all things. So, if hate is creeping up on you, say no and choose love. Dr. Seidman wrote a great article on jealousy in a relationship setting entitled, ‘What’s really behind Jealousy and what to do about it” and if you and your spouse are dealing with this issue, read the article HERE

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Remember, embracing jealousy is not always a bad thing when you learn to make it work for your good. Next time the green-eyed monster creeps up on you, remember these 5 steps and allow love to win.

Don’t forget about my last Fun-Facts post on “How to cuff the right way during cuffing season.” Click HERE to read all about it.

I would love to style or collaborate with your business. Email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com for information and any styling questions you may have.

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Mix-It-Up

“I love a woman that knows how to mix prints like a BAWSE!”

Have you ever tried to mix prints, pattern and textures and just given up because it was too hard? This blog post is just for you. We will be talking about how to mix prints, and textures without looking like a clown. You may not be a fan of this trend, but it is here to stay and will definitely have you looking like a style pro…so give it a try and mix it up. Here are my 5 go-to rules on how to mix prints like a BOSS:

  1. Find prints with one or two common colors
  2. Find a pattern that super busy and one that is a little less busy
  3. Find items with a common background color: either light or dark background
  4. Pastel prints mixed together is an easy go-to look
  5. stripes and florals or stripes and stripes are always a YES

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In these pictures you’ll see celebrities from Solange to Blake Lively slaying and showing us how to wear mixed prints. All of them follow these simple five rules and they come out looking like they stepped right out of the pages of Vogue magazine (fyi: some of them probably did). This trend is not hard. I want you to give it a try and see how fun playing with prints can really be.

how to mix prints like a pro

My look today is a nod to the mixed print trend. I paired a printed peplum blouse with a textured bottom and ended up with this amazing and chic look. My shirt is going to be in my collection ShakaraFAB that will be available next summer for purchase. The pants are from Dillards, the shoes Amazon, and everything else will be down at the bottom for purchase.

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So, do you think you are daring enough to give this trend a try?! Now that you have the rules in hand, go into that closet and pull out some clothes and start mixing. I look forward to seeing what you come up with. Tag House of Odara on Facebook and find me on Instagram at Oluwafunmifly.

For collaborations, email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com

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Issa.Celebration

“Every day is a celebration when you have the right bag”

Today on the blog, I am showing you how to style a floor-length wrap dress with a plunging neckline and a colorful-textured bag. I received this bag to style for a local business owner and entrepreneur and I fell in love with it as soon as I received it. The bag is PHENOMENAL! it’s heavy, well-made and a topic starter. It definitely makes a statement no matter how and where you wear it.

Let’s begin with this beautiful plunging neckline dress. It’s a Gianni Bini wrap dress that is a little too long for me but the color was too rich to pass up. I began by layering the dress with a gold, jewel-encrusted undershirt and finished it some sky-high, ankle-strap heels. I don’t know about you, but I’m not really a plunging-neckline type of girl so I always layer to hide my décolletage. One tip when layering an outfit is put a shirt underneath that has a pattern or is jewel-encrusted or has texture to it. It just adds a little something extra to the look. For my petite girls, a sky-high heel and a long dress with a slit is your best friend; it helps elongate your frame. Another tip: if your dress has a split, find a pair of sexy heels and let them legs show!

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I love how there are little accents of gold from my bag to my shoe to my undershirt.

Now, Let’s talk about how to style this colorful bag. I recently did a post on Adachicdesigns and you can read all about it HERE! This bag is one of my favorite bags i’ve styled so far because it makes a statement all by itself. I love this colorful piece because I don’t have to do much to make it stand out. Last tip, when styling a colorful bag, try and keep everything else simple, unless of course you love styling different prints and textures. You can pair this bag with a little black dress or to be more edgy, pair it with a patterned dress. Check out the site www.adachicdesigns.com to purchase your own special bag.

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So, comment below and let me know what you think about this look and the bag. If you purchase one, tag House of Odara and Adachicdesigns for a chance to be featured on the page.

For collaborations, email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com

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Fringetober

Is it me or did this year go by like cash in your wallet?

It’s a new month and we have a little over two months before 2018. Ya’ll, I feel like I was just dancing in the new year and now it’s almost over and I actually haven’t even finished all my “New Years Goals” list. Jesus help me. Oh, well…I still have this month and November and December to get things done. But, let’s move on to this October-worthy dress.

This post is all about one of my favorite fall trends…FRINGE. I love this trend because it is just so fun. I’m all about a dress that moves and gives dimension from every angle. You can’t help but have all eyes on you when you walk into a room dripping with fringe-goodness. When I shot this look in Birmingham, I had so many men and women stop me to ask me where I got the dress from. Well, you guys have the inside scoop. This dress is just $54.99 (yells into pillow).

 

This dress is so amazing and the sheen and shimmer is perfect for a night out on the town or a special event. I added a t-strap Gianni Bini heels and a simple gold clutch. I let the dress pave the way and kept everything else simple. FYI, this dress also comes as a jumpsuit too (it’s already in my Amazon cart).

So, who else is fearless enough to give this fun dress a try?! Let me know if you order it and tag House of Odara when you wear it. Find on Instagram: Oluwafunmifly and go like my Facebook page: House of Odara.

For collaborations and personal styling, email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com

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