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Embracing Jealousy

“I hate you, I hate you, I don’t know you and I hate you!”

Today, I’m going to tell you a story about how embracing jealousy changed my life! LOL…Don’t close the page, give me a chance to explain this to you. I don’t know how many of you ever watched “The Chappelle Show” back in early 2000’s. I was obsessed with it, even though it was a bit grown-up for me at that time. The Chappelle show was truth wrapped in a comedic shell and this formula made it very successful.

embracing jealousy: how to make it work for your goodMy favorite episode was the Player Hater’s Ball. I literally died laughing at that episode but in the middle of all that laughter, I learned a lot about embracing jealousy and turning it into motivation and NOT anger. The episode was all about a group of men that were so filled with hate they got awards for hating on someone’s success, looks and personality. I find in today’s society, people think that being a hater and being jealous and petty is very chic and cool. FYI it’s not! Jealousy can be a bad thing but when you embrace it you can actually turn it into motivation. 

So, no this post is not 101 ways to be a better hater…sorry!

Webster defines jealousy as a feeling of resentment because of someone else’s success, advantages, or because of a personal rivalry. LISTEN LINDA, WE ALL GET JEALOUS! Anyone that says they’ve never been jealous of someone else is lying. It’s okay to feel jealousy, it’s what you decide to do with it that makes the difference.

Here are 5 ways I learned to embrace jealousy and make it work for my good. 

  1. Compliment Your Rival: When it’s 10PM and you’re scrolling on social media and you see your friend is engaged, having a baby or got a promotion, don’t scroll by and roll your eyes, compliment them. Even if you don’t feel it, do it. Blessings come when we learn to rejoice with other people!
  2. Smell Yourself: My mum used to say if you travel and everywhere you go stinks, check your self because it might be you smelling. When jealousy creeps up, it’s because in some way or another we feel inadequate. We may be having a low self-esteem day and going online can sometimes make things worse. When insecurity creeps in, ask yourself “why do I feel this way and what can I do to build myself back up” Listen, when your self-esteem is low, log offline and get with a group of people that can uplift, pray and compliment you. 
  3. Let it Push You: There is nothing like jealousy to motivate you to do better. I remember seeing my friend that had a baby a month after me, and she was back in a size 6. I was sooooo mad at her and at myself and at my body but instead of taking it out on her and letting jealousy eat me up, I decided to embrace jealousy and let it push me to exercise. Embracing jealousy can turn “hateration” into greatness. 
  4. Talk It Out: Sometimes you just gotta talk it out with a friend. When you’re feeling inadequate and jealous of just about everyone and everything they have and you don’t have, get advice from your pastor, get prayer from a friend or grab a glass of wine and chat it out with girlfriends. Nothing soothes like being able to work things out with people you trust
  5. Love is Greater: Love conquers all things. So, if hate is creeping up on you, say no and choose love. Dr. Seidman wrote a great article on jealousy in a relationship setting entitled, ‘What’s really behind Jealousy and what to do about it” and if you and your spouse are dealing with this issue, read the article HERE

embracing jealousy: how to make it work for you

Remember, embracing jealousy is not always a bad thing when you learn to make it work for your good. Next time the green-eyed monster creeps up on you, remember these 5 steps and allow love to win.

Don’t forget about my last Fun-Facts post on “How to cuff the right way during cuffing season.” Click HERE to read all about it.

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D.4.Dedication

“You can’t reach the top without climbing the steps”

Happy Labor day Lovies! I hope you all have a safe and productive day, filled with food, fun, family and fashion. Okay, so you know that saying that you can’t wear white after labor day, throw it out the window with along with all the other antiquated fashion rules. In the winter, I love an all white outfit with white trimmed fur…Yes, i’m that girl… #teamoverthetop.

This blog post is called “Dedication” because I want to talk about becoming a more dedicated person. So you know that girl or guy that’s always at conferences, reading all the self-help books but never does anything with it? I used to be that person. I couldn’t dedicate myself to anything for long periods of time. I wanted the success without the handwork. Who else is like that? I wanted to be at the top of the mountain without having to actually climb it. Life DOES NOT work that way. Whatever you want to accomplish, you have to put in hard work and dedication. The first thing that helped me become more dedicated was coming up with a calendar of things I want to do daily. The second thing was setting aside a day to work on one project. No matter what, every Monday, I work on my blog; no excuses, no procrastination. So, find a day of the week to dedicate yourself to ONE goal and JUST DO IT!

Today’s look is simple and very easy to replicate. If you have a summer dress, pull it out of your closet and pair it with a pair of booties for a nice Fall look. You can add a nice jacket or tights if the weather is a bit more chilly. I have found some perfect summer dresses on sale both are under $25.00 and the booties are PERFECT for a transitional look everyone will envy.

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Floral Lace-Trim Dress      Plus Size Floral Shirt Dress       Pointed Toe Stiletto Boots

Like I said, both dresses are perfect transitional pieces. A little belt can take the outfit a long way and fyi, those boots are a must-have for fall because they are really comfortable and absolutely gorgeous. What are some Fall looks you are looking forward to this year? Don’t forget to check out my Fall Must-Haves: HERE

So, Let’s make this September the month of Dedication to our goals and dreams. Let me know what goals you’re going to dedicate your time, effort and money into and how you plan on doing it. If you recreate this look, let me know. Find me on IG: Oluwafunmifly and tag me in it or on Facebook at House of Odara.

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NewMonth.Who’sThis?

“New Month, New hair, Who is this?”

Hello September, I’ve been waiting on you at the door. I am so ready for cooler weather and Fall season all summer long. In my hometown, we’ve been experiencing thunderstorms and last night we even had a tornado watch. I woke up this morning to torn branches and debris everywhere. My heart and prayer and support goes out to those in Texas suffering under the destruction of Hurricane Harvey. If you live in Birmingham, please support by going to the Boutwell Auditorium at 1930 Reverend Abraham Woods Jr. Blvd, Birmingham, AL 35203. They are asking for canned goods, perishable items, clothes, etc that they can send to those in need. They will be accepting donations until Sunday evening. If you live in any other state or city, please find out where you can donate and be a hand in need.

Did you all catch my last blog on my favorite Fall item? If you didn’t, click HERE. This look today is sponsored by my favorite designers Derek and Daniel of Splashed by DKG. I am wearing their fabulous denim kimono skater blouse. I love the shape of this piece. I love the big beautiful bell sleeves and the structured bottom of the blouse. I belted it to give it some shape and accentuate my waist. I’ve seen it worn unbelted and that looked great as well. I completed the look with some lace shorts underneath and these ultra sexy jean boots from Amazon.

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This look is so different from my normal wear but that’s the beauty of style. Never be afraid to mix it up and step out of your comfort zone. Check out their website HERE for buying options and to look at their other pieces.

So, what’s something new you plan on doing this month that you’ve never done before? Whether it’s changing your wardrobe, exercising more, meeting new people or simply getting out more, in the words of Michal Jordan…JUST DO IT! I pray this month is blessed, full of favor and riches.

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Eclipsed!

“Honey, you are like a solar eclipse…rare, beautiful and magnificent to look at.”

How many of you guys actually got to see the solar eclipse today? I know my sister had everyone in the continental United States looking for glasses for her children. The next total eclipse won’t be until April 2024…by then i’ll be “yadayadayada” years old. LOL! I got to look at it today because some wonderful Wal-mart workers let me borrow their solar eclipse glasses. It was a sight to behold. I almost was in tears thinking about the beauty of God’s creation. I don’t know about you, but things like these make me realize how small me and my problems are and how big God is (HE IS HUGE)! So, let me know how looking at the solar eclipse made you feel and your thoughts about it.

Now on to fashion…are y’all gearing up for fall fashion yet. I’m working on some great looks of the fall, but since we live in the South, summer is still on and popping. This look is ruffled, floral, fun and full of food. All my favorite F’s. I found this gorgeous Gianni Bini dress at the “Ghetto Dillards” and I knew it would be perfect for a special occasion.

I actually wore it to the grand opening of the new Fresh Anointing building in Montgomery, AL and I received a lot of compliments on it. I love dresses that are easy to wear and this is one of them. I paired it with my off-brand Azzedine Alaia heels and one of my favorite MK bags. If you live in Montgomery, stop by the Dillard’s outlet and dig for this dress, you won’t be disappointed. My dress is no longer available, but I found this gorgeous one on Amazon UNDER 30.00 (small cheers and claps)


FYI: the wonderful food is from Vecchia Restaurant in Birmingham AL. The food is delicious; check them out when you get a chance.

FYI: thanks to all of you who take time out to your day to support House of Odara. I truly appreciate all your likes, shares, comments and love…it is deeply felt and it keeps me going. I hope this blog brings a little bit of sunshine, fashion and joy into your lives. Let me know what else you would like to see on the blog.

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Spinach Dip and Chicken Alfredo Pasta

 

 

 

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Steps=Success

“Nothing great in life is ever comes easy and nothing easy is ever great”

Success doesn’t come with an escalator…that would be too easy. Success comes with a deep, dark, dank staircase that seems to never end. Your level of commitment to climbing these steps will be your level of greatness in whatever you are trying to achieve. For example, school begins this month, and as you know, passing your classes and doing well depends entirely on you. For those who work every day, most of the time, your promotions and raises depend on your level of hard work and determination. There is nothing God, determination and hard work cannot accomplish. Remember, you are destined for greatness, you cannot lose. Keep persevering, keep climbing…don’t look at the others whizzing quickly past you. Your journey is your own. Keep moving.

As a blogger, mother, and wife, I see others doing so well in their area of expertise and it keeps me down and it makes me want to quit. But, I have to remember, they put in work to be where they are now. They didn’t just arrive at 100K followers, they didn’t just raise amazing kids, they didn’t just have that “Perfect” marriage…IT TOOK WORK. It takes work people. I’m writing about this subject because it’s something i’ve been dealing with lately a lot. I remember shooting this look and second guessing everything about myself…Sometimes, we are our own biggest critics, when we should be our own biggest cheerleaders. When the steps get steep and your legs want to give out on you, don’t come down on yourself, but celebrate how far you’ve come and encourage yourself to keep going.

Y’all, I didn’t mean to preach! LOL. Let’s get into this look. So, I was in Eastdale Mall in Montgomery, AL (on my way to Ghetto Dillards) when I stumbled onto this THOT shop called Pink Clove. You know the boutiques that only sell club wear…yea, that one. But, they had this jewel hanging in the window and God knows, It was whispering, “come here Emma, come buy me!”

How could I resist a talking shirt. It took me two weeks but the next time I was down there, I brought it home. I paired it with this Elizabeth Taylor skirt i’ve had for ages (Tip: Always have a couple of expensive, quality items in your closet that can be staple pieces…these will outlast 100’s of inexpensive pieces). I added my pink Selma Michael Kors bag and some light pink heels from Forever21 (No, those are not Azzedine Alaias).

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Charlotte Wrap Front Ruffle Shirt

If you are in Montgomery, check out the store Pink Clove for my exact shirt. However, this shirt from Boohoo is under 40 and there is a 50% off sale going on NOW on the site.

Comment below and give us tips on how you encourage yourself when everything in you wants to give up. Also, let me know what areas you are striving for success and how you plan on achieving it.

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Mother.Of.Pearl

Hello Prime Day!

Hope you all had a great and successful week so far. Okay, so did you read my last post on Amazon Prime Day and did you do any damage to their sale and your debit card? If you didn’t, click HERE to read it and shop away! Comment below and let me know what your purchased or if you sat this one out. You can also always chat with me on IG: Oluwafunmifly or Facebook: House of Odara. 

Okay, I have a really simple look for this week.  I found these bomb jeans on this great site called boohoo. Let me tell you about my new best friend… Guys, these jeans are the BEST. They stretch to the GAWDS. Okay thick girls, you know that feeling after Chipotle, and you have to suck your stomach in all the way to the car, and as soon as you get there, you pull the jeans down under your tummy so that you can make it home?!  These jeans stretch with your food baby, LOL!. You guys know I had a baby 8 months ago and unlike Kim K and Blac Chyna, I still have 80% of my baby weight to lose. So, I love anything with stretch and anything that is very comfortable. I’ve had them for a while and the pearls haven’t fell off and the color hasn’t faded. I bought a medium or 8/10…they shipped quickly and they were extremely cheap (SALE). Boohoo is always having sales so check them out. The link for the look will be listed below the pictures. 



I paired these bomb jeans with a white high low shirt and a jean sleeveless jacket. I’m not linking a jean jacket because I would love to see what jackets you put with the jeans. Tag me in it on FB or IG for a repost. Remember, Style is all about finding what works for you. So, take some time out, grab a mirror and play dress up (you’re never too old or too young). I kept my accessories simple with pearl earrings and a cream and gold choker. I have linked another shirt on Amazon that I have already purchased in red. It was a great buy. I was 5 months postpartum and boy did that shirt hide all my flaws. This look is so simple and great for a night out with the girls, or a day at the office (if your office allows jeans during the week). The look was completed with my go-to-shoes for the summer that I found on Amazon. I wore them on my last post and these are a great buy because they go with everything…literally everything. Like I said before, purchase inserts for them because your feet do slide without them.

Okay, let me know if you recreate this look. Tag me on IG: oluwafunmifly or FB: Emma Searcy Ford and let me know. FYI BOOHOO IS HAVING 60% OFF MEN, WOMEN AND KIDS CLOTHES: CODE IS 60ALL!

Pants- Penny Pearl Destroyed Hem Skinny Jeans

Shirt Option A

Shirt Option B-

Envelope Clutch- Michael Kors

Shoes- Cape Robin Clear Heels

Shoe Option II- Forever21 Nude and Clear heels

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XoXo Emma

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AdaChicDesigns Launch Party

Dreams!

Dreams are funny things. They may wake you up at night, they may keep you up at night. Sometimes they make you cry, laugh or wake up feeling scared. Dreams are funny things. No matter who you are or where you are in life, you’ve had a dream; an seemingly impossible dream that you keep telling yourself you will fulfill “one day.” Listen Linda, it doesn’t matter if you don’t have any money , no bright ideas, or all that weight off, JUST DO IT!

This blog post is about a new bag designer that went to Africa one time and came back home and decided to make her dreams a reality. She did her homework and in a matter of months, she created Adachicdesigns. Her line caters to the woman that is hard working, fearless and unafraid to shine. I was able to be a part of her launch on June 25, 2017 and let me tell you, this lady knows how to throw a viewing party. The food was impeccable, the venue was immaculate and the ambiance was sophisticated. To top it off, the bags were complete showstoppers. Gorgeous, to say the least. I was given the opportunity  to style the beautiful “Celebration Bag” for this blog.

If you want to know more about the company, visit their site: www.adachicdesigns.com and the bags can be purchased on her Easy page: HERE

Let me know what you think about the bags and the styling!

 

Bag: AdaChicDesigns

Dress:

Shoes: Poshmark

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XoXo Emma

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PARTY OF 3!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING LOVES!

It’s been a while since i’ve posted anything and today seems like the perfect day to begin again.

So, I had a baby! LOL! I took a break to enjoy my pregnancy…plus, I was so huge, I couldn’t fit into anything anyway. I went from a nice 135lbs to a whooping 196lbs before my 8lb baby boy made his debut. When I say that baby Sammy was a surprise….HE WAS NOT PLANNED! BUT, VERY WELCOME!

7 months!Pregnancy Shoot

We found out we were pregnant on my parent’s 24th wedding anniversary and nothing was the same afterwards. Pregnancy was not what I expected. I wanted that pregnancy glow everyone talks about…but, what I got were chin hairs, vicious acne, stretch marks, severe acid reflux and LOTS of extra fat.

Still, Samuel Krisitian Ford came out a health baby.

Ready to PopD-Day. At Brookwood HospitalFresh Out the Womb

He was 4 days overdue and STILL didn’t want to come out so I ended up having to get a cesarean. Now, i’m just trying to heal and enjoy my little family.

Today, Sammy is 3 weeks old and gaining weight every single day.

He is the joy of our lives, he is the reason for my reason for lack of sleep, the reason I smell like vomit and urine all day long and the reason I am constantly smiling (how did I get so lucky?).

He is my new reason for existing. So this Thanksgiving, I want to take time out to say how thankful I am for my little Ford family and this blessing God has bestowed on Samuel and I.

I hope you all are enjoying time with your families and all that good home cooking. I pray that your homes are filled with joy, peace and much love.

Happy Thanksgiving…Love you, Mean it!

pssss…enjoy Black Friday for me and shop twice as hard

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XoXo Emma

 

 

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LoveDay Fly

Valentine Day is 5 days away.

For me, it’s all about the outfits. I tried and tried to get my hubby to do a post with me for Valentine Day but he wasn’t having it…LOL. He’s not about the blogging life. But, I did do a great post that I can’t wait to share with you all. I want to share some affordable and cute styles for you and your significant other for you v-day. Everything here will be wallet-friendly because you don’t have to splurge to look like a million dollars.

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This look is a whooping 9,355.00. It’s gorgeous, but entirely too expensive. Let’s see if we an recreate it for less. BTW you can find this along with other looks on my Polyvore Page.

 

 

 

 

Most of these dresses are under $30.00. Click on the pictures to take you to the site

Strappy Bodycon Cami Dress

Strappy Bodycon Cami Dress

Coiled Cord Overlay Dress

Coiled Cord Overlay Dress

lace dress

Mock Neck Lace Dress

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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One-Shoulder Ruffled Dress

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Sleeveless Deep V Skater Dress

 

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Ruffled One-Shoulder Dress

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

printed coat

Contemporary Abstract-Embroidered Long-Line Coat

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Faux Fur Tweed Coat

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Heeled Sandals

 

 

 

 

 

 

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I hope this helps you in finding something perfect for your valentine day look. Don’t forget to try other styles like a jumpsuit or even a skirt. Whatever feels good to you and looks great on you, try it out.

Here is a look at how I would dress my husband if he would allow me to…LOL. But he has such great style already, I can’t complain. I love this monochromatic look:

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Does your husband or boyfriend let you dress them for special occasions? So, would you dress him in this look? I like it because it’s so clean and crisp and would tone down the bright reds and pinks that I would definitely be wearing.

I can’t wait to hear from you all about your V-day plans and what you plan on wearing.

Don’t forget about the All-red look I did at the beginning of the month. Check it out and scroll all the way to the bottom for the links for the look: Hello February

 

I hope this helped you in some way. Keep being fashionable. Love you. Mean it!

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XoXo Emma

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RTR

Iron Bowl 2015

First things first…Alabama or Auburn?!

If you’re from the South or love college football, you know what RTR stands for: Roll Tide Roll! The University of Alabama knows they choose a bomb print and a gorgeous color for their uniforms. Houndstooth and Crimson Red go hand-in-hand like Louboutins and Louboutins…lol! I am not a big sports girl, but my husband went to the University of Alabama for undergrad so I have to support and show my team spirit…my way.

A fall essential that every girl should have in their closet is a pair or two of leather tights, leather pants or leather anything! I own about 6 pairs of leather pants and I wear them indiscriminately. I styled my faux leather pants by sugarlips with a white knitted sweater and an Anne Klein Jacket. I found another great Houndstooth jacket on Zulily for $40.00. I love these  leatherette leggings from Dillards because they are affordable and the detailing is gorgeous.

I absolutely love this Anne Klien jacket. Let me know where you found your favorite jacket and put a link down below.

Also, comment below and let me know who you think is going to take this game home, Alabama or Auburn?

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XoXo Emma