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Hey Girl Hey: Back to School

Hey Girl Hey! It’s that time of year again…BACK TO SCHOOL! As a mother I am so excited that summer is almost officially over! This means I no longer have to think of one hundred ways of how to entertain my kid. I have a six year old daughter and let’s be real, the girl has high standards!

The transition from summer break ending to going back to school is sometimes challenging. So let’s start getting them in the routine of going to bed early and waking up early. By doing this they will be prepared and ready for the first day of school. I’m still a kid at heart so I’m excited as if, it’s my first day. I can’t wait to lay out her uniform, label her supplies, pack her book bag, and send her off. Teachers be ready….these are now your kids, we truly appreciate you all!

Now, that we have gotten the kids out of the way. It’s time to talk to the mothers, as moms we have countless duties. So much so, that we get caught in the commotion of prepping the kids that we barely set aside any time for ourselves. I know, you’re like “how do you expect me to set time out for myself in the morning girl?”

Girl! I’m glad you asked. Here are some thoughtful easy ways to make sure that not only your kid(s) look and feel awesome but so do you. Let’s face it, kids love when their moms look good, it makes them proud. Whether they say it or not. Trust me. My daughter evaluates my work attire every morning, she usually says that I either look like her grandma, a principal or like I’m going to church. And guess what? All of those are fine by me.

“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.”

  1. Attempt to get a good night’s rest. Emphasis on attempt, 6-8 hours will do your body good and you will wake up refresh and energized.
  2. Wake up early and have some personal time. This puts an end to rushing. It also allows more time for you pray, do your hair, makeup and take a selfie!
  3. Set out your clothes the night before. Doing this cuts out wasting time in the closet trying to put together an outfit in the morning.
  4. Create an after school schedule for your children. Studies show that kids actually like routines. Make it fun for them.
  5. Remember you are human! You’re not perfect and you make mistakes. Take care of yourself because all children deserve happy parents.

Comment below and let us know some of the things you do to get yourself and your family ready for the back to school season. As always, thank you for reading and sharing this blog.

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Hey Girl Hey!!

Okay, if you know me, you know I’m all about the holidays, especially Christmas!! It is imperative for me to make sure that everyone that is dear to me is in the holiday spirit!  I just Loveee it!! Holidays give you a reason to shop more & care less (until your bank statement arrives)!!

Nevertheless, I’m all about treating yourself-you’ve worked all year, buy the SHOES (do it for the culture)!! I’m sure I’ve used the excuse of “it’s Christmas” one too many times in regards to one too many purchases!! People ask, “What is it about the holidays that you love so much?” My answer is simple:

When I think of the holidays I think of relaxation, time off work, *random ugly sweater parties (any excuse to partay!) & quality time with friends and family. Too often we get caught up in the combustion of the materialistic items and find ourselves stressed out!! While in reality it’s not even about that. Don’t get me wrong. I will shop til’ I drop (I’m not a shopaholic, I’m actually helping the economy). However, I’m more so here for creating moments that turn into forever memories.

I’m a mommy to a FABULOUS five year old (Kaylen) that has a personality bigger than herself!! I honestly never saw myself being a mother. & I honestly never thought that I would be saying this… but she is the BEST thing I’ve ever done!! Hands down!

A day in my life consist of being a full-time mother, (shout out to mothers, especially SINGLE mothers) working as a full-time Paralegal & prepping to finesse my way into law school. My mind is constantly on GO, always thinking, always prepping, always scheduling, literally ALWAYS doing something!

For this very reason when holiday season comes I am HAPPY. I am JOYFUL. I am THANKFUL. I am APPRECIATIVE. During the months of January-October we are busy getting our lives together for the better! I look at November (Thanksgiving) & December (Christmas) as a time to relax & catch up on things and people that I may have put off during my “Grind Months”.

 

“GIVE THEM THEIR FLOWERS WHILE THEY’RE STILL ALIVe”

Holiday season is the perfect time to do so! Take time out to appreciate the ones you love, you don’t have to literally give flowers (unless that’s your thing) but words and affection can go a long way.

This holiday season my hope is that we don’t forget the true reason for the season (Isaiah 9:6). That we find bliss within the smallest things. & that we take time out to love our loved ones while they are here.

Happy Holidays! May they be as EXTRAORDINARY as YOU!

 

 

 

 

Xoxo-Ashlen & Kaylen

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You’re Going Somewhere!

So, it’s 2016.

We have exactly 360 days left in this year. What goals have you set for yourself?

A map can show you where to go, but unless you get in the car and drive, your destination will always just be a dream. 

r-CROSSROADS-large570Think about it, when you make a decision to take a road trip with the girls you always have a plan of action and you are prepared to execute it. The weeks leading up to the trip you spend time calculating how much everything is going to cost, you develop an itinerary, and you decide what you will be wearing…duhhh. All this preparation allows you to enjoy the trip. And even if you run into bumps in the road during the trip, you’re able to roll with the punches and know what to do and not to do for next time.

The same mindset we take with trips is the same mindset that you must take with the goals you set and achieve for 2016. Lets face it, we are on a journey called life and we only get one chance at it. So remember that no matter how many obstacles you have faced and how many times you have been knocked down, its time to get back up. 

So lets cut to the chase! How do you set goals and achieve goals? Here are some tips I’ve picked up along the way that have helped me stay on track.

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1.) Decide what it is you want in life. Remember no one knows you better than you do. Don’t make the decision based on what sounds good, but instead what you are passionate about. Start dreaming again!

2.) Focus. No one can do too many things at once, it’s the same with setting goals. You have to prioritize. Start by thinking about the important areas of your life you want to achieve something in. For example I always break mine down into categories physical, financial, spiritual, and so forth. From there I brainstorm specific goals in each area I would like to achieve. You don’t want to get overwhelmed, so I suggest selecting only 3 goals for each category you choose. Remember You can always add on to your list. All your goals need to be SMART!
S – Specific (or Significant).
M – Measurable (or Meaningful).
A – Attainable (or Action-Oriented).
R – Relevant (or Rewarding).
T – Time-bound (or Trackable).

3.) WRITE IT DOWN. I can’t say it enough. Get your pen and paper and get to writing. This is important because you will definitely need to go back and look at it.

4.) “If you fail to plan you plan to fail.” Develop a plan of action. A genie in a bottle isn’t going to be granting any of your wishes anytime soon, so girl you got to work. You have to know where in the world you are going. Nothing happens overnight. You want to lose 50 pounds you need a plan. Are you going to get a gym membership? Or will you have a personal trainer? How many times will you workout each week? Are you cutting out sweets? Having a plan allows you to not wander aimlessly.

5.) Don’t let your goals collect dust. Find time to review them periodically. I remember every year I would set goals and make a plan, but when I would review it every month it made it real again. My eyes stayed on the prize. So every too weeks or even monthly pull it out and see where you are at in your progress.

6.) Accountability. Share your goals with a person you trust. I believe this will help in those times you get distracted or discouraged. Having someone there that has your best interest at heart and desires you to succeed is vital. They will serve to both encourage and challenge you to stay the course and finish the race.

These are only a few tips on how to set and achieve your goals. Throughout the process stay positive and remember failure is only final when you allow it to be. Become committed to making you the best you. If you take these steps, you cannot help but succeed. No matter what your dream is, you can achieve it.

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XoXo Emma

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Single Bells…Single Bells

couple-staying-in-1-bedroom-luxury-cabins-in-Gatlinburg-TN-300x200In a cozy Tennessee cabin, a beautiful woman and a handsome man cuddle in front of the fireplace as soft jazz plays in the background. They are playing footsie, while sipping on hot chocolate, laughing and joking about Christmases long, long ago. They lovingly stare into each others soulful eyes and anticipate a lifetime filled with passion and promise…

This is someone’s story…

 

Just not mine!  At least, not this year!  And no you don’t have to hide all the knives and cover all the bridges. I will not be jumping unless there is a secured (very secure) bungee cord attached to me!!! Lol

There is a song that says, “What Do the Lonely Do at Christmas?”

HOLD UP…WAIT A MINUTE!! Who says you have to be lonely just because you’re single? It is very possible to be alone and not be lonely. You have family, friends, coworkers, and even frenemies that are willing to be there and be a support system for you during the holidays, if you let them. Plus, there are so many activities happening around this time of year where you can mix and mingle. So, link arms with another single friend, a cousin, or a loved one and get to mingling! Don’t dwell on being single!!

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And anyway, I’m sure there isn’t a, “Build-A-Man” section in Santa’s Workshop. So no, no matter how much you pray and dream about it, Idris Elba will not be under your Christmas tree this year! lol

 

The truth of the matter is Jesus is the real reason for this season. What a beautiful and wonderful gift God sent us… His Beloved Son.

However, God didn’t stop sending gifts to this earth. He sent you and me.

Yaaaaaaasssss, Honey!! You are a gift!! a-christmas-giftYou may not have been given to anyone yet, but that doesn’t devalue your worth…you are priceless. You are not the kind of gift where you hope they put the gift receipt with it so you can return it later, or even the gift that ends up being re-gifted!! Your love, your time, your presence, your knowledge, your strength, your everything is a gift, and the kind that keeps on giving. You are the kind of gift that someone doesn’t even know they need until they get it. That being said, you don’t just give that kind of gift to anyone. You want to give it to someone who knows how to embrace and love all the beauty that is you!

So maybe this Christmas, you are still single. So maybe this Christmas, your Adam is STILL sleeping or your Eve hasn’t been finished yet!! That is perfectly fine!! Remember, no good thing will God withhold from them that trust and love Him.

So go ahead and enjoy this holiday season with your family and friends. And as for the question, “What do the lonely do at Christmas?” I have absolutely no idea but I’ll be having the time of my life with the ones I love and the ones who love me best!! You do the same!

Merry Christmas,

ZaMaya

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Writer: Zamaya Johnson Email: zjohnson27@ymail.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Comment below and let me know how you like this great article by the talented and beautiful Zamaya Johnson. Share it with a friend who needs to read it and leave comments below on how you deal with being single and happy during the holidays. Love you all and thank you always for your love and support.

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Toxic

Don’t You Know That It’s Toxic

So, how many of you remember that song Toxic by Britney Spears (yes, i’m old…lol). In it she sings about a boy that she knows is bad for her, but she is so addicted to him that she can’t let him go. I used to be obsessed with this song when I was younger. I sang it all the time because the beat was so catchy and the song was just fun. But, it’s actually a very sad song. Britney sings that the guy she’s in love with is dangerous but she loves it! Wait, what?! But, if you think about it, haven’t we all had a toxic relationship at least once in our life? #raiseshand

I used to be in a relationship like this. I dated a guy who was very mentally and verbally abusive. I was never good enough for him. I thought if I was slimmer, if I just wore more makeup, if I didn’t talk back and agreed to everything he said, he would be nicer to me. I dumbed down my voice and personality to try and be the person he wanted. But, what I didn’t realize was that he didn’t have the capacity to love me the way I needed to be loved. He had his own issues and problems. He was miserable, so all he had to give was misery. Now, if I decided to stay in that relationship, hoping and praying he would change, I would have no one to blame for my decision. So, I did the smart thing, I RAN! I left that relationship and never looked back. Believe me, it wasn’t easy to let go of someone I thought I loved so much, but I saw my future and I wanted better for it. I prayed and asked God for strength not to go back and not to give in. I occupied myself with other things, and a couple of months later I realized I hadn’t thought about him or about that situation in weeks.

Your situation might be different from mine. You might have been or are currently in a toxic friendship. You know, that friend that always puts you down, is secretly jealous of you and never has anything good to say about you. Or you might currently be in a toxic relationship where you are being abused physically or emotionally. Or your issue might be a boyfriend or girlfriend that only uses you for your money, your body or your attention. We’ve all invited these toxic people into our lives and allowed them to overstay their welcome. Sometimes we are so afraid of being alone, of letting go, of the unknown that we just live in the mess hoping for change. And sometimes we just stay hoping for the best. What we have to realize is that we have to be the change we want to see. If someone or something in your life is unhealthy, “do da Heisman on em” and keep it moving. Remember that you are worth more!

As we enter 2016, let’s make a decision together to let go of any relationships that are toxic. Whether platonic or romantic, if it doesn’t benefit us, our dreams and our goals, we will let it go. Let’s also decide to grab ahold of the things that matter to us, and be passionate about the good and healthy things in our lives. How many of you all will do this with me?

I want to know what toxic relationships and situations you have already let go of and which ones you plan on letting go of in 2016.  Share this post with someone that needs it and comment below and let us  your thoughts. Plus, I know I have some wise followers, so comment and let us know ways you cut toxic things out of our life. I can’t wait to read your responses.

 

*If you are in a physically toxic relationship, please find a pastor or counsellor to talk to. This is a serious situation and you have to speak to someone about it to get help and assistance in getting out. You are worth more than someone who cannot respect you enough to protect you from themselves* (334.613.3363)

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XoXo Emma

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