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Embracing Jealousy

“I hate you, I hate you, I don’t know you and I hate you!”

Today, I’m going to tell you a story about how embracing jealousy changed my life! LOL…Don’t close the page, give me a chance to explain this to you. I don’t know how many of you ever watched “The Chappelle Show” back in early 2000’s. I was obsessed with it, even though it was a bit grown-up for me at that time. The Chappelle show was truth wrapped in a comedic shell and this formula made it very successful.

embracing jealousy: how to make it work for your goodMy favorite episode was the Player Hater’s Ball. I literally died laughing at that episode but in the middle of all that laughter, I learned a lot about embracing jealousy and turning it into motivation and NOT anger. The episode was all about a group of men that were so filled with hate they got awards for hating on someone’s success, looks and personality. I find in today’s society, people think that being a hater and being jealous and petty is very chic and cool. FYI it’s not! Jealousy can be a bad thing but when you embrace it you can actually turn it into motivation. 

So, no this post is not 101 ways to be a better hater…sorry!

Webster defines jealousy as a feeling of resentment because of someone else’s success, advantages, or because of a personal rivalry. LISTEN LINDA, WE ALL GET JEALOUS! Anyone that says they’ve never been jealous of someone else is lying. It’s okay to feel jealousy, it’s what you decide to do with it that makes the difference.

Here are 5 ways I learned to embrace jealousy and make it work for my good. 

  1. Compliment Your Rival: When it’s 10PM and you’re scrolling on social media and you see your friend is engaged, having a baby or got a promotion, don’t scroll by and roll your eyes, compliment them. Even if you don’t feel it, do it. Blessings come when we learn to rejoice with other people!
  2. Smell Yourself: My mum used to say if you travel and everywhere you go stinks, check your self because it might be you smelling. When jealousy creeps up, it’s because in some way or another we feel inadequate. We may be having a low self-esteem day and going online can sometimes make things worse. When insecurity creeps in, ask yourself “why do I feel this way and what can I do to build myself back up” Listen, when your self-esteem is low, log offline and get with a group of people that can uplift, pray and compliment you. 
  3. Let it Push You: There is nothing like jealousy to motivate you to do better. I remember seeing my friend that had a baby a month after me, and she was back in a size 6. I was sooooo mad at her and at myself and at my body but instead of taking it out on her and letting jealousy eat me up, I decided to embrace jealousy and let it push me to exercise. Embracing jealousy can turn “hateration” into greatness. 
  4. Talk It Out: Sometimes you just gotta talk it out with a friend. When you’re feeling inadequate and jealous of just about everyone and everything they have and you don’t have, get advice from your pastor, get prayer from a friend or grab a glass of wine and chat it out with girlfriends. Nothing soothes like being able to work things out with people you trust
  5. Love is Greater: Love conquers all things. So, if hate is creeping up on you, say no and choose love. Dr. Seidman wrote a great article on jealousy in a relationship setting entitled, ‘What’s really behind Jealousy and what to do about it” and if you and your spouse are dealing with this issue, read the article HERE

embracing jealousy: how to make it work for you

Remember, embracing jealousy is not always a bad thing when you learn to make it work for your good. Next time the green-eyed monster creeps up on you, remember these 5 steps and allow love to win.

Don’t forget about my last Fun-Facts post on “How to cuff the right way during cuffing season.” Click HERE to read all about it.

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Mix-It-Up

“I love a woman that knows how to mix prints like a BAWSE!”

Have you ever tried to mix prints, pattern and textures and just given up because it was too hard? This blog post is just for you. We will be talking about how to mix prints, and textures without looking like a clown. You may not be a fan of this trend, but it is here to stay and will definitely have you looking like a style pro…so give it a try and mix it up. Here are my 5 go-to rules on how to mix prints like a BOSS:

  1. Find prints with one or two common colors
  2. Find a pattern that super busy and one that is a little less busy
  3. Find items with a common background color: either light or dark background
  4. Pastel prints mixed together is an easy go-to look
  5. stripes and florals or stripes and stripes are always a YES

how to mix prints

In these pictures you’ll see celebrities from Solange to Blake Lively slaying and showing us how to wear mixed prints. All of them follow these simple five rules and they come out looking like they stepped right out of the pages of Vogue magazine (fyi: some of them probably did). This trend is not hard. I want you to give it a try and see how fun playing with prints can really be.

how to mix prints like a pro

My look today is a nod to the mixed print trend. I paired a printed peplum blouse with a textured bottom and ended up with this amazing and chic look. My shirt is going to be in my collection ShakaraFAB that will be available next summer for purchase. The pants are from Dillards, the shoes Amazon, and everything else will be down at the bottom for purchase.

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So, do you think you are daring enough to give this trend a try?! Now that you have the rules in hand, go into that closet and pull out some clothes and start mixing. I look forward to seeing what you come up with. Tag House of Odara on Facebook and find me on Instagram at Oluwafunmifly.

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Issa.Celebration

“Every day is a celebration when you have the right bag”

Today on the blog, I am showing you how to style a floor-length wrap dress with a plunging neckline and a colorful-textured bag. I received this bag to style for a local business owner and entrepreneur and I fell in love with it as soon as I received it. The bag is PHENOMENAL! it’s heavy, well-made and a topic starter. It definitely makes a statement no matter how and where you wear it.

Let’s begin with this beautiful plunging neckline dress. It’s a Gianni Bini wrap dress that is a little too long for me but the color was too rich to pass up. I began by layering the dress with a gold, jewel-encrusted undershirt and finished it some sky-high, ankle-strap heels. I don’t know about you, but I’m not really a plunging-neckline type of girl so I always layer to hide my décolletage. One tip when layering an outfit is put a shirt underneath that has a pattern or is jewel-encrusted or has texture to it. It just adds a little something extra to the look. For my petite girls, a sky-high heel and a long dress with a slit is your best friend; it helps elongate your frame. Another tip: if your dress has a split, find a pair of sexy heels and let them legs show!

how to style a plunging neckline and colorful bag

I love how there are little accents of gold from my bag to my shoe to my undershirt.

Now, Let’s talk about how to style this colorful bag. I recently did a post on Adachicdesigns and you can read all about it HERE! This bag is one of my favorite bags i’ve styled so far because it makes a statement all by itself. I love this colorful piece because I don’t have to do much to make it stand out. Last tip, when styling a colorful bag, try and keep everything else simple, unless of course you love styling different prints and textures. You can pair this bag with a little black dress or to be more edgy, pair it with a patterned dress. Check out the site www.adachicdesigns.com to purchase your own special bag.

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So, comment below and let me know what you think about this look and the bag. If you purchase one, tag House of Odara and Adachicdesigns for a chance to be featured on the page.

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Fringetober

Is it me or did this year go by like cash in your wallet?

It’s a new month and we have a little over two months before 2018. Ya’ll, I feel like I was just dancing in the new year and now it’s almost over and I actually haven’t even finished all my “New Years Goals” list. Jesus help me. Oh, well…I still have this month and November and December to get things done. But, let’s move on to this October-worthy dress.

This post is all about one of my favorite fall trends…FRINGE. I love this trend because it is just so fun. I’m all about a dress that moves and gives dimension from every angle. You can’t help but have all eyes on you when you walk into a room dripping with fringe-goodness. When I shot this look in Birmingham, I had so many men and women stop me to ask me where I got the dress from. Well, you guys have the inside scoop. This dress is just $54.99 (yells into pillow).

 

This dress is so amazing and the sheen and shimmer is perfect for a night out on the town or a special event. I added a t-strap Gianni Bini heels and a simple gold clutch. I let the dress pave the way and kept everything else simple. FYI, this dress also comes as a jumpsuit too (it’s already in my Amazon cart).

So, who else is fearless enough to give this fun dress a try?! Let me know if you order it and tag House of Odara when you wear it. Find on Instagram: Oluwafunmifly and go like my Facebook page: House of Odara.

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Sheer.Goodness

Don’t worry sis…your time is coming

Patience is a four-letter word. In this microwave generation, we all want instant gratification. We hate delays, detours and small victories. There is nothing wrong with fast success but remember, Beyonce did not become Bey overnight. The Grand Canyon, one of the biggest tourist spots in the world, took 6 million years to form. Wether it’s a new business, new school, new relationship, new friendship or a new venture…it takes time. Just like no one likes a rushed, half-baked cake, no one will like something that you didn’t put time and effort into. Don’t rush your process and don’t give up because your time is coming…WAIT ON IT!

That’s my soap box for today, and I wrote it because I needed it as well. Now, on to this sheer look that I’ve been drooling over since buying this beautiful sheer Forever21 shirt two months ago. The blouse is SOLD OUT (tears), but I am linking some other fabulous sheer tops down below. Since i’m not that type of girl that wears a see-through top and bra, I layered it with a striped bustier underneath, a pair of flare-bottom trousers and a faux fur coat were added to finish the ensemble.

I Love these trousers because not only are the bottoms funky with flare but they are high waisted which means they sit at the smallest part of your waist and cinches in the rest. It helps give an hourglass figure. When looking for jeans and pants, try and find high-waisted pairs, especially if you are a thicker girl. My pants are from my favorite store TJMaxx but I linking a lot of great flare-bottom jeans down below. You can always do a tank-top under any of these see-through blouses or even another shirt…just layer it and have fun.

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Sheer Mesh Ruffle Blouse Plus Size Glitter Knit Mesh TopSheer Lace Embroidered Top

Flared Bell-Bottom Pants

Let me know if you would ever try this sheer trend and definitely get you a pair of these awesome flare-bottom trousers, they are amazing. If you recreate this look, tag House of Odara so I can see it. I cannot wait to see how you style these awesome pants.

If you would like to collaborate with me or if you need styling for a special event, send me an email at houseofodarablog@gmail.com

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Form-Fitting…No Problem

“I like my clothes like I like my money, stretchable”

Let’s jump right into one of my favorite topics…Lycra. Okay, today i’m talking about what to look for when you buy form-fitting jeans and dresses and how to wear it without looking round or lumpy. As a new mummy, wearing stretch denim or dresses scared me because of my weight gain and the shape of my new body. Big dresses and sweats were my BFF’s until I realized I could still be a hot mama I just needed to pick the right items, pair it well and accentuate the good.

You don’t have to be afraid of stretch material because it’s a actually a girls best friend. When buying a pair of jeans, a 3-4% stretch is what you need. The lycra will help shape your legs and stomach and give you a great shape. Stretch is your BFF whether you are curvy, petite, tall or in-between.

When designers Daniel and Derek of SplashedbyDKG sent me a dress to blog for them, I almost screamed when I saw that it was a dark blue stretchy material. I thought how am I going to wear this without making my body look round? Well, duh, when in doubt, BELT IT.

The beautiful thing about belts is that they help cinch in that waist and give the illusion of an hourglass figure. You want to wear the belt at the smallest part of your waistline and let the magic happen. After I put the dress on and let go of my phobia, I realized it shaped to me so well and the slinky material was flattering as well as super comfortable. The thing I was so afraid of ended being my favorite asset. I found a pair of sexy Forever21 heels, a tulle sock and my fur jacket to add a little bit more drama to this look and voila, magic!. The dress will be sold at the Magic City Market today from 12-4 at the Goldstein and Cohen Building at 406 19th St Ensley, Birmingham, AL 35218. I hope to see you guys there. 

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Velvet Studded T-Strap Heels

So, don’t be afraid of form-fitting clothes. Learn to pair them with something that accentuates the good, like a great belt or a crop jacket, blazer or cape. My friend Aliscia, who is a bit curvier paired her with a trench and gold belt. She made the look her own and killed it as well. This is the same dress, two different body shapes, two different styles but both are amazing.

 

Let me know if I’ll be seeing you at 12PM at the Magic City Market and come find me if you come. Let me know if you plan on recreating this beautiful look and again, don’t be afraid of the stretch, it can be your best friend if done the right way. For collaborations, email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com

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Boo, is that you?!

“A good man/woman is hard to find but time wasters are a dime a dozen” 

Okay, So it’s October and officially Cuffing Season (LOL!). This post is all about how to find the RIGHT ONE to cuff. Marriage is one of the biggest decisions we will ever make in our life. So, don’t take it lightly and don’t waste time on time-wasters, marriage-phobes and the one-hit wonders (once they Hit-it, they are gone). I have compiled stories from couples that have been married for over 10 years to one’s who just got married last year. Lots of good wisdom in one post.

My husband met me at church while I was busy working, enjoying life and worried-less about what guy was looking at me. He said the first thing he noticed about me, besides my legs, was my tenacity. He said I looked like I had everything together (FYI I WAS A MESS). I had just broken off a relationship, I was hurting, lost and felt so rejected…but I didn’t look like it. The moment I knew he was the one was when I saw the way he treated his mom and sisters. I’m a family oriented person and I knew he was too and we connected in that aspect as well as our faith, work-ethic and goals. So that is my story, here are some others:

This is Brian and Brittany Ramsey of Birmingham, AL. They have been married for one year and met while out on the town. Brittany said she knew Brian was “The One” because:

A. He made it known he was SERIOUS about me and about the relationship.

B. He took the lead to introduce me to everyone in his family, his friends and into his world.

C. Brian said he knew Brittany was the one because she carried herself like a QUEEN!

Their advice is not to sell yourself short trying to be everything to someone who isn’t trying to be everything to you. Make sure you know from the beginning whether the person is as serious as you are so you don’t waste your time You don’t have to wait 10yrs to figure out that the girl or guy is not serious (honey, you’ll know right away).

 

This is Sederick and Sametta Fluker of Montgomery, AL. They met while in college at Alabama State University and have been married for 19 “wonderful” year as of TODAY! They have two children, both work and they still make time to enjoy each other and their marriage. Here is their advice for spotting “the one”:

A. She knew he was marriage material because he had a good work ethic and she knew he would be a great provider

B. He also kept his promises even when they were just dating (aaaahhh so important)

Their advice is to understand each other’s values and worth and get to know each other from the inside out instead of outside in. This means, get to know their internal beauty and then factor in their external beauty. Remember, looks can be deceiving because an apple may look good from the outside but be rotten once you bite into it. 

 

This is Christopher and Maraya Searcy from Montgomery, AL and Oklahoma City. They met at an internship in Kansas city and have been married for 4 months. They are loving married life and here are their words of wisdom:

A. She knew Chris was marrying material because of his capacity to love and serve without expecting anything in return. 

B. He was also serious about his walk with Christ and his faith

C. He knew she was it for him because of her love for those around her and her faith

Their advice would be to not only make sure that your potential spouse has all the good qualities you are looking for, but also make sure you have those qualities as well. Make sure you are wife/husband material.

 This is Antonio and Tamera Felder of Prattville, AL. They are both in the military and met while in college. They have been married for almost five years and love that they are each other’s best friends. Here is their advice on finding your mate:

A. She said she knew Antonio was the one because he drove 14 hours just to meet her parents and sit down with her dad face-to-face to express how much he liked her and his intentions for them. 

B. He said he knew he could marry Tamera because she was loving, caring, possessed great character and had a great booty and a beautiful face (ayyyee).

Their advice would be to put God first in your marriage if you want success. Even in the dating process, put God first and He will lead you to the right one. Plus, never rush into anything. Take your time to get to know the person and trust God’s timing. Remember, no one wants a half-baked cake so let God finish working on him/her before you marry them. 

Lastly, I asked my cousin (she’s single) some of the things she looks for when she’s dating someone so she doesn’t waste her time.

Ashlen is mother to Kaylen Loban, law student and the paralegal at a law firm in Montgomery, AL. She is also CEO of HeyGirlHey a weekly email with uplifting, funny and insightful messages. Here is her advice to the single man/woman seeking love:

A. Don’t overlook early red flags…they aren’t there just for decoration. If it’s a red flag now, it’ll be a full blow fire two years down the line.

B. Have a conversation about the trajectory of the relationship. Are y’all on the same page as to where this is leading?

C. Don’t get caught up in the hype of dating and being on the market, spend that time to work on you, better yourself, travel, enjoy life and BOSS UP!

I hope this post helped you in some way or the other. Comment below and let me know which advice helped you and how you plan on dating with purpose in the future. If you’re already married, comment and let us know how you knew your spouse was “the one” for you.

Here is a great book for those who are single and those who are married to help you understand the opposite sex better and IT’S ON SALE NOW: CLICK PICTURE TO PURCHASE

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Is That Gucci?!

“It’s not real, I just make it look good”

This blog is about how I found my Gucci-inspired bag for thousands less….get ready, get ready, get ready!

My look today is all about real vs. fake. I’ve always been one of those people who hated anything fake…especially fake bags. But, the way my budget is set up, I can’t afford real Gucci or real Chanel (FYI if you want to send me a real Chanel, DM me). So, when I found this great faux-Gucci bag for $41.99 I snatched it up.

This authentic Gucci Dionysus retails for $3,600 and if you have the money, by all means buy it and buy one for me. But, if you’re struggle booty like me, you love a good knock-off.

When I wore my Gucci-inspired bag for the first time, I got so many compliments on it. I thought to myself, “It may not be real, I just know how to make it look EXTRA TASTY”.

 

Amazon has a great Dionysus inspired bag for…WAIT FOR IT…. $21.99 (JESUS IS LORD). Now, let’s get into my look and the links to purchase these great pieces. Like I said in my last Fall-inspred post, this season is all about layering. You can turn summer pieces into fall pieces by just layering it. I paired a gingham off-shoulder ruffle sleeve blouse with a great pair of black distressed jeans and a grey crop-top shirt to make this fall look. I added my Gucci-inspired bag and black heels to complete this easy-breezy night out with the girls ensemble.

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Gingham Off-the-Shoulder Top

I wore a pair of heeled sandals but you can mix it up with a colorful shoe or booties. This outfit is everything and easy to recreate so, go for it.

Let me know if you recreate this easy-breezy look and share with all your fashion-loving friends. For collaborations or questions, email me at houseofodarablog@gmail.com. Comment below and let me know what other looks you would love to see styled.

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Sweater Weather

“I can smell Autumn dancing in the breeze”

Happy Sunday Lovies, please take a minute and say a prayer for this planet that we inhabit. There have been natural disasters from Houston, TX all the way to Sierra Leone, Africa. Let’s pray for the wellbeing and restoration of health, home and family for those affected by the storms world-wide.

This weeks look is another simple one. It’s all about sweaters and fall boots. I found a gold knitted sweater at my local Salvation Army thrift store and knew it would be perfect for the Fall weather. The sweater is not too heavy and could be worn with a undershirt beneath it. The gold color is also one of my favorites for the Fall. I put it with a Forever21 red pleated skirt and a short brown pair of old Jessica Simpson booties. I love this simple look.

Linked below is a F21 pleated skirt and a comparable sweater both for $15.99. I also linked a pair of boots that are perfect for the fall. My vintage Dooney and Bourke is old but any great leather bag would go perfect with this look.

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Pleated Mini Skirt    Waffle Knit Sweater

Remember Fall is all about layering. My skirt is short and my sweater is long and warm. The booties are short because it’s not cold enough for thigh-highs. Play round with summer items you have in your closet and pair them with boots, sweater, jackets, etc…layer, layer, layer. Let me know what you think of this look and how you plan on revamping your summer clothes into Fall pieces.

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Shakara.FAB

“Entrepreneur: someone who jumps off a cliff and builds a plane on their way down”

I once heard someone say if you don’t see a door, then build one and walk though it. As humans, we like to sit there and wait and wait and wait for a door to arrive. FYI, It’s never coming. Get up and make room for yourself.

I saw a movie called “Joy” yesterday and it motivated me to go for greatness. It was about the life of Joy Mangano, a business woman, author, entrepreneur, and inventor. She began as a broke, mother of two, divorcee with a crazy family that never supported her dreams. She took all the lemons life gave her and made a million dollar jar of lemonade. This movie motivated me like never before. What I got from it is that if you want something, you have to get up and GRAB IT FOR YOURSELF! 


Now, Welcome the new Endeavor that I am going to make a multimillion dollar industry: Shakara FAB. My sister and I were born in Lagos, Nigeria and have always had a passion for fashion, entrepreneurship and bringing our culture to those around us. We have lived in the US for 20 plus years and now after much work, prayer and determination, we are going to make this vision a reality.

We have teamed up with our cousin Ashlen of HeyGirlHey and our close family friend Claudia Olojo of King_Queen_Melenin. Our mission is to bring authentic, African-made clothing to our friends, family and people in our sphere of influence. Shakira FAB will be a success because we will make it so by the grace of God.

This look is one of the dresses that will be available from petite to plus size. I love the shape of this dress and the way it accentuates your waist and hips. It gives you an hourglass shape even if you don’t really have one (like me). Now, let’s talk, comment below what you would like to see from us and what problems you want fixed with the fashion industry and it’s representation of all sizes and shapes. We will take your comments and make sure our designs fits everyone.

So, would you wear this dress?! Why or why not, and what would you like to see from our brand Shakara FAB. Again, thank you all for all your support and help. We love your feedback and input and will use it to better us and give you what you want.

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