Fly Day!


Okay, so when I turned 23yrs old, I had just gotten back from San Diego, Cali and I cried my little eyes out because I was a college dropout, I was unmarried, I had no kids and I thought I was soooo old. Boy, if I had known better, I would have danced all night and celebrated like it was my 21st birthday. I was so young! Now I’ve arrived to my 30th birthday and God not only brought me my soulmate, but I’m working on my Masters Degree. I’ve realized that life is about enjoying yourself and learning to find inner joy, no matter where you find yourself. We spend so much of our lives waiting and striving for our better tomorrow, we forget to enjoy the beauty in today.

So i decided to compile a list of 10 essential things i’ve learned in my 30 years:

  1. It Gets Better. Remember the man or girl you thought you couldn’t live without, remember that job you got fired from, remember that friend that stabbed you in the back? Well, let me tell you, time heals all wounds and it gets better. Someone better will come along to make you forget that heartache, you will get a better job with more money and God will bring you better friends. Trust me, don’t stress over the people that willingly leave your life or the things God removes. Some things/people that leave were never meant to be permanent anyway.
  2. Mom is All-Knowing and All-Wise. As a teenager, I didn’t get along with my mom at all. But when I moved out, got my own place, started paying bills and had real responsiblities, I realized I really did need her help and advice. She really does have the answers to all life questions. Cherish her. Thank you Kemi Searcy for all that you’ve done and given me.
  3. Family is Life. Enjoy the time you have with them now, because it goes by fast and they aren’t here forever. Keep in mind that friends you choose, family is just family…so love them through the good, bad and ugly.
  4. Pick Up and Go. Life is so very short, don’t spend it working, sleeping, eating and getting ready for death (i’m serious). Save money, pick up and see the world; you won’t regret it.
  5. A Penny A Day. Save money! OMG, if I could go back and tell my 19yr-old self anything, it would be to save, save, save and to leave that guy alone…lol. Don’t try and keep up with anybody that’s maxing out cards to “ball out.” Let the Kardashian’s ball out and you save your hard earned money for the future, for your kids and for retirement.
  6. Let It Go. Don’t ever hold on to toxic people, toxic things and toxic situations. Let go of anything in your life that does not benefit you. If it’s not helping you achieve your goals, then it’s probably not meant for you…let it go.
  7. Plan! Wow, this is probably the thing I’ve realized lately is very important. We have to live intentionally. We have to plan for the future we want, the kids we want, the degrees we want, the happiness we want. Life doesn’t happen accidentally, trust me, it’s all about planning and walking out that plan.
  8. Love Yourself. There is no other you. You may not have the body, height, weight, etc. that you want, but that’s okay. It’s also okay to work on the things that you know need improvement. If you decide you want to lose weight, go ahead and do it; if you decide that you want to wear makeup, go ahead and do it; if you decide you want to better your self through education, definitely do it. Anything that you want to do to enhance your beauty or brain, do it–but remember that it’s just an enhancement. Every improvement we make on ourselves is just icing on the cake. Remember, you are already beautiful.
  9. Serve Others. I remember one of the best things I started doing was volunteering at Faith Rescue Mission here in my hometown. I would go three times a week to serve food in their soup kitchen. Everybody in there showed me such love that I couldn’t help but love them back. The first day I went there I cried as I served the food, and I made up in my mind to always remain humble, grateful and to always give back to those less fortunate than myself. Find someway you can serve someone else and see how much fuller your life will be.
  10. Last but definitely not least…LOVE GOD! Without Him, none of these lessons would be worth anything. I love because He first loved me. So take time out to cultivate and form a relationship with him. Find a local church and spend time getting to know the One who loves you enough to die for you.

So, in a nutshell, that’s what i’ve learned in 30 years of being on this earth. Every lesson in life can be summed up in these 10 things and I am ever grateful for the life God has given me.

I am determined to make this 30th year my best year ever. I may no longer be in my 20’s but I’m grateful to still be alive, thriving and happy. Plus, I have so much more vision and drive now than when I was in my 20’s. What dreams and desires do you want to accomplish before your next birthday? Let me know.

Thank you all for the support and love for me and for this blog. I love every single one of you.


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XoXo FlyGirl

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  • Emma
    December 9, 2015 at 10:44 pm

    Thanks sis! Love you!

  • Lakisha Bolling
    December 9, 2015 at 9:23 pm

    Beautiful, I love it. Great advice from a beautiful person inside and out! #powerful