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December 2015

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Floral Notes

How was your Christmas?!

Mine was fantastic and filled with love and family. Hope you didn’t do too much damage to your bank account…and I hope you got that special gift you wanted. I got so many good things and I can’t wait to style and show them to you all.

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I love being a girl!!!! I love being a girly-girl

I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Ever since I was little, I always wanted the biggest, glitteriest, fluffiest dress that the store had to sell. My mom would always laugh and ask me why I didn’t just pick out something more sensible…bless her heart. I would cry and cry and ask her for the one with the bows and glitter. Yes, I was that child.

My mentality has not changed…I still love frills, glitter and anything girly. So, when I went into Forever21 and found this floral midi skirt, I was over the moon. I loved styling it. I kept it simple and let the skirt do all the talking. Let me know what you think of this look below and let us know how you would describe your style. Are you more tomboyish or a full out princess, or somewhere in-between?

Top- Forever21 Curved Hem Curved Top

Skirt- Forever21 Tropical Print A-Line Skirt

Heels- Guess/ Option B / Option C

FYI: Unless you want to go on a juice fast for a week, buy the floral midi one size bigger. It fits tight around the waist.

Let me know how your Christmas was and how you like to wear floral print. I’m excited to see what 2016 has in store for us all.

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XoXo Emma

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Single Bells…Single Bells

couple-staying-in-1-bedroom-luxury-cabins-in-Gatlinburg-TN-300x200In a cozy Tennessee cabin, a beautiful woman and a handsome man cuddle in front of the fireplace as soft jazz plays in the background. They are playing footsie, while sipping on hot chocolate, laughing and joking about Christmases long, long ago. They lovingly stare into each others soulful eyes and anticipate a lifetime filled with passion and promise…

This is someone’s story…

 

Just not mine!  At least, not this year!  And no you don’t have to hide all the knives and cover all the bridges. I will not be jumping unless there is a secured (very secure) bungee cord attached to me!!! Lol

There is a song that says, “What Do the Lonely Do at Christmas?”

HOLD UP…WAIT A MINUTE!! Who says you have to be lonely just because you’re single? It is very possible to be alone and not be lonely. You have family, friends, coworkers, and even frenemies that are willing to be there and be a support system for you during the holidays, if you let them. Plus, there are so many activities happening around this time of year where you can mix and mingle. So, link arms with another single friend, a cousin, or a loved one and get to mingling! Don’t dwell on being single!!

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And anyway, I’m sure there isn’t a, “Build-A-Man” section in Santa’s Workshop. So no, no matter how much you pray and dream about it, Idris Elba will not be under your Christmas tree this year! lol

 

The truth of the matter is Jesus is the real reason for this season. What a beautiful and wonderful gift God sent us… His Beloved Son.

However, God didn’t stop sending gifts to this earth. He sent you and me.

Yaaaaaaasssss, Honey!! You are a gift!! a-christmas-giftYou may not have been given to anyone yet, but that doesn’t devalue your worth…you are priceless. You are not the kind of gift where you hope they put the gift receipt with it so you can return it later, or even the gift that ends up being re-gifted!! Your love, your time, your presence, your knowledge, your strength, your everything is a gift, and the kind that keeps on giving. You are the kind of gift that someone doesn’t even know they need until they get it. That being said, you don’t just give that kind of gift to anyone. You want to give it to someone who knows how to embrace and love all the beauty that is you!

So maybe this Christmas, you are still single. So maybe this Christmas, your Adam is STILL sleeping or your Eve hasn’t been finished yet!! That is perfectly fine!! Remember, no good thing will God withhold from them that trust and love Him.

So go ahead and enjoy this holiday season with your family and friends. And as for the question, “What do the lonely do at Christmas?” I have absolutely no idea but I’ll be having the time of my life with the ones I love and the ones who love me best!! You do the same!

Merry Christmas,

ZaMaya

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Writer: Zamaya Johnson Email: zjohnson27@ymail.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Comment below and let me know how you like this great article by the talented and beautiful Zamaya Johnson. Share it with a friend who needs to read it and leave comments below on how you deal with being single and happy during the holidays. Love you all and thank you always for your love and support.

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XoXo Emma

 

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Blah Blah Blah

People will always have something to say!

Whether you asked for their opinions or not, someone will have something to say to you about something. LOL! In this age of Facebook, tweets, cell phones, iPads and all the other ways we communicate with each other, someone will say something that is uncalled for and unwelcome. I have learned to simply tune out those opinions and “advice” that aren’t really helpful. I have learned to laugh at the people that say something mean or rude and make it sound like advice. You know the ones that say things like, “you know sweetheart, you just aren’t built for that” or “girl you’ll never get that job…maybe you should apply for something easier” or “Honey if I were you I would quit” or “just leave him, he’ll never change.” The list goes on and on. I find it funny that the ones who give up on their dreams are the first to give the same advice that helped them fail. If they can’t pull you down, then they try to talk you down. They intimidate and put fear in your heart so you won’t reach for greater.

TUNE THEM OUT! Every time negativity comes your way, let it come in one ear and go out the other. Learn to know the difference between constructive criticism and negativity. One builds you up and the other brings you down.

Choose to hear “blah, blah, blah” when someone is in your ear trying to give you false advice or speak death over your dreams and aspirations. You’ll be happier if you do this, trust me. You don’t know how many times i’ve given up because I followed the wrong leader or listened to the wrong voice.

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Gianni Bini is one of my favorite go-to labels when it comes to clothes. Dillard’s sells a lot of this designers items and I never fail to find something that is trendy, inexpensive and absolutely fabulous.

I found this great faux leather jacket with the matching skirt by Binni about two months ago. As soon as I saw the pair, I knew it was going home with me…LOL. I paired it with this killer sleeveless graphic shirt by Soprano and my favorite pair of JLO boots courtesy of Khols.

Hope you like this look. Let me know what you think and how you like to wear your faux leather. Also, give us advice on how you drown out negativity and negative comments. Being on social media and starting this blog, I get a lot of negative comments, especially on Instagram, so I had to learn to get tougher skin and not pay attention to any of it.

Pass…Kylie Jenner had a similar (more expensive) look on the other day by Cushnie Et Ochs with these bomb pair of Brian Atwood thigh high boots:

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Cushnie Et Ochs White curve cap sleeve dress

Two-Piece Faux Leather set- Gianni Bini/ Jacket & Skirt

Thigh-high boots- JLO/ Breckelles BG03 Thigh-Highs

Graphic tank- Soprano’s/ Forever21 / Rue21 Plus-Size Mesh

Bag- Icing/ Ebay / Missguided

Comment below and let me know what you think of this look, how you would have worn it differently and you thoughts on negative people and negative comments. I seriously love all of you and impact and positivity you bring to me with your love and comments for this blog.

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XoXo Emma

 

 

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Ruffled

How many times has someone ruffled your feathers?

How many times has someone disappointed you or just made you mad? I cannot begin to count the number of times someone has let me down or made me so mad I had to speak in 10 different languages to calm myself down. It’s funny how one person can change our whole mood and day. I realized I never wanted to have anyone have that much power over my emotions and life. If you think about it, the moment you allow someone to change your mood, your attitude or your emotions, they have the upper hand…they win. But, if you remain calm, show grace and smile even when you are screaming on the inside, you win. The moment you don’t react the way someone expects you to, you show them that you are better, stronger and more mature than them…and that’s a good thing.

I remember a really trying time in my life last year when everybody seemed to be coming against me, talking about me and trying to get me to come out of character. My mom told me to kill them with kindness and to show them the love and grace of God. I did just that, and those same people that were bent on making me miserable, came back and apologized to me. I Won! LOL!

Let’s never allow ourselves to take off our crown to get down and dirty in the mess of someone else. They are not worth it…and you are worth more!

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Now that the only thing ruffled in our lives will be what we’re wearing on the outside. Check out this ruffled look. I am loving this ruffled skirt from Kardashian Collection for Sears. It’s no longer in stock but it comes in handy when I just want something cute, flirty and girly. I paired this feminine skirt with a simple knit racer front top, color blocked caged sandals, and a comfy jacket.

Check out this look and let me know what you think. Comment below and let me know how you respond to the negativity of others. Believe me, negativity will come but your reaction and how you handle it is all that matters. Give us some tips that work well for you and also let me know how you would have worn this look differently. I love hearing from you all and growing from all your suggestions, so thank you!

Jacket- Tahari/Amazon

Shirt- Charlotte Russe  or Option B

Skirt- Kardashian Kollection (sold out)/Forever 21

Shoes- Charlotte Russe

Now, let me know what you think about this look, how you would have worn it differently or any suggestions that you have (comment below).

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XoXo Emma Ford

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Chi-Town

Chi-Town…Chi-Town

My BIG 30 has come and gone but i’m still reeling from the excitement and fun of it all. My husband surprised me with a trip to Chicago and it was AMAZEBALLS! We had so much fun…we had so much food…and so much adventure. Chicago is now on my top 10 list of favorite places in the U.S.A. to visit.

I wanted to give all my y’all a BTS (behind the scenes) look of how our time was spent as well as give you some ideas for good food and entertainment places to visit if you ever find yourself in Chicago. My first word of advice is to download YELP. If you’re a foodie like I am, this app is for you.

The trip started out bumpy. We didn’t know that there were two airports in the city and just assumed we were going to O’Hare. So we got a hotel by O’Hare airport only to land at Midway airport (45 minutes from O’Hare). Our rental car had us arriving the next day so the car was not ready…sigh! We were tired. But we kept a good attitude and got everything sorted out.

After all that mess, I needed retail therapy!!! SHOPPING TIME!

We went on the Magnificent Mile and found some great items at H&M, Zara and Forever21. We also went to the Hancock Center Observatory that day and saw the perfect view of the city. Take a look at our pics and I also listed all my favorite spots in the city. Comment below and let me know what spots you visited this summer and what some of your favorite places are in Chicago. We plan on going again summer 2016.

Thank you to all who texted me food, shopping and entertainment spots while I was traveling (especially my Marriage Group wives). You are the real superhero.

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Here is a synopsis of our favorite restaurants and places to visit in Chicago.

Shopping:

Fashion Outlets of Chicago

Magnificent Mile

Thrift & Thrive

Site Seeing: 

John Hancock Observatory

Field Museum

United Center/Jordan Statue

Obama’s House

Food:

Mug’s Pizza and Ribs

Giordano’s

Stax Cafe

Toscano’s

Garrett Popcorn

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XoXo Emma

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Fly Day!

IT’S MY BIRTHDAY LOVES!

Okay, so when I turned 23yrs old, I had just gotten back from San Diego, Cali and I cried my little eyes out because I was a college dropout, I was unmarried, I had no kids and I thought I was soooo old. Boy, if I had known better, I would have danced all night and celebrated like it was my 21st birthday. I was so young! Now I’ve arrived to my 30th birthday and God not only brought me my soulmate, but I’m working on my Masters Degree. I’ve realized that life is about enjoying yourself and learning to find inner joy, no matter where you find yourself. We spend so much of our lives waiting and striving for our better tomorrow, we forget to enjoy the beauty in today.

So i decided to compile a list of 10 essential things i’ve learned in my 30 years:

  1. It Gets Better. Remember the man or girl you thought you couldn’t live without, remember that job you got fired from, remember that friend that stabbed you in the back? Well, let me tell you, time heals all wounds and it gets better. Someone better will come along to make you forget that heartache, you will get a better job with more money and God will bring you better friends. Trust me, don’t stress over the people that willingly leave your life or the things God removes. Some things/people that leave were never meant to be permanent anyway.
  2. Mom is All-Knowing and All-Wise. As a teenager, I didn’t get along with my mom at all. But when I moved out, got my own place, started paying bills and had real responsiblities, I realized I really did need her help and advice. She really does have the answers to all life questions. Cherish her. Thank you Kemi Searcy for all that you’ve done and given me.
  3. Family is Life. Enjoy the time you have with them now, because it goes by fast and they aren’t here forever. Keep in mind that friends you choose, family is just family…so love them through the good, bad and ugly.
  4. Pick Up and Go. Life is so very short, don’t spend it working, sleeping, eating and getting ready for death (i’m serious). Save money, pick up and see the world; you won’t regret it.
  5. A Penny A Day. Save money! OMG, if I could go back and tell my 19yr-old self anything, it would be to save, save, save and to leave that guy alone…lol. Don’t try and keep up with anybody that’s maxing out cards to “ball out.” Let the Kardashian’s ball out and you save your hard earned money for the future, for your kids and for retirement.
  6. Let It Go. Don’t ever hold on to toxic people, toxic things and toxic situations. Let go of anything in your life that does not benefit you. If it’s not helping you achieve your goals, then it’s probably not meant for you…let it go.
  7. Plan! Wow, this is probably the thing I’ve realized lately is very important. We have to live intentionally. We have to plan for the future we want, the kids we want, the degrees we want, the happiness we want. Life doesn’t happen accidentally, trust me, it’s all about planning and walking out that plan.
  8. Love Yourself. There is no other you. You may not have the body, height, weight, etc. that you want, but that’s okay. It’s also okay to work on the things that you know need improvement. If you decide you want to lose weight, go ahead and do it; if you decide that you want to wear makeup, go ahead and do it; if you decide you want to better your self through education, definitely do it. Anything that you want to do to enhance your beauty or brain, do it–but remember that it’s just an enhancement. Every improvement we make on ourselves is just icing on the cake. Remember, you are already beautiful.
  9. Serve Others. I remember one of the best things I started doing was volunteering at Faith Rescue Mission here in my hometown. I would go three times a week to serve food in their soup kitchen. Everybody in there showed me such love that I couldn’t help but love them back. The first day I went there I cried as I served the food, and I made up in my mind to always remain humble, grateful and to always give back to those less fortunate than myself. Find someway you can serve someone else and see how much fuller your life will be.
  10. Last but definitely not least…LOVE GOD! Without Him, none of these lessons would be worth anything. I love because He first loved me. So take time out to cultivate and form a relationship with him. Find a local church and spend time getting to know the One who loves you enough to die for you.

So, in a nutshell, that’s what i’ve learned in 30 years of being on this earth. Every lesson in life can be summed up in these 10 things and I am ever grateful for the life God has given me.

I am determined to make this 30th year my best year ever. I may no longer be in my 20’s but I’m grateful to still be alive, thriving and happy. Plus, I have so much more vision and drive now than when I was in my 20’s. What dreams and desires do you want to accomplish before your next birthday? Let me know.

Thank you all for the support and love for me and for this blog. I love every single one of you.

 

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XoXo FlyGirl

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Toxic

Don’t You Know That It’s Toxic

So, how many of you remember that song Toxic by Britney Spears (yes, i’m old…lol). In it she sings about a boy that she knows is bad for her, but she is so addicted to him that she can’t let him go. I used to be obsessed with this song when I was younger. I sang it all the time because the beat was so catchy and the song was just fun. But, it’s actually a very sad song. Britney sings that the guy she’s in love with is dangerous but she loves it! Wait, what?! But, if you think about it, haven’t we all had a toxic relationship at least once in our life? #raiseshand

I used to be in a relationship like this. I dated a guy who was very mentally and verbally abusive. I was never good enough for him. I thought if I was slimmer, if I just wore more makeup, if I didn’t talk back and agreed to everything he said, he would be nicer to me. I dumbed down my voice and personality to try and be the person he wanted. But, what I didn’t realize was that he didn’t have the capacity to love me the way I needed to be loved. He had his own issues and problems. He was miserable, so all he had to give was misery. Now, if I decided to stay in that relationship, hoping and praying he would change, I would have no one to blame for my decision. So, I did the smart thing, I RAN! I left that relationship and never looked back. Believe me, it wasn’t easy to let go of someone I thought I loved so much, but I saw my future and I wanted better for it. I prayed and asked God for strength not to go back and not to give in. I occupied myself with other things, and a couple of months later I realized I hadn’t thought about him or about that situation in weeks.

Your situation might be different from mine. You might have been or are currently in a toxic friendship. You know, that friend that always puts you down, is secretly jealous of you and never has anything good to say about you. Or you might currently be in a toxic relationship where you are being abused physically or emotionally. Or your issue might be a boyfriend or girlfriend that only uses you for your money, your body or your attention. We’ve all invited these toxic people into our lives and allowed them to overstay their welcome. Sometimes we are so afraid of being alone, of letting go, of the unknown that we just live in the mess hoping for change. And sometimes we just stay hoping for the best. What we have to realize is that we have to be the change we want to see. If someone or something in your life is unhealthy, “do da Heisman on em” and keep it moving. Remember that you are worth more!

As we enter 2016, let’s make a decision together to let go of any relationships that are toxic. Whether platonic or romantic, if it doesn’t benefit us, our dreams and our goals, we will let it go. Let’s also decide to grab ahold of the things that matter to us, and be passionate about the good and healthy things in our lives. How many of you all will do this with me?

I want to know what toxic relationships and situations you have already let go of and which ones you plan on letting go of in 2016.  Share this post with someone that needs it and comment below and let us  your thoughts. Plus, I know I have some wise followers, so comment and let us know ways you cut toxic things out of our life. I can’t wait to read your responses.

 

*If you are in a physically toxic relationship, please find a pastor or counsellor to talk to. This is a serious situation and you have to speak to someone about it to get help and assistance in getting out. You are worth more than someone who cannot respect you enough to protect you from themselves* (334.613.3363)

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XoXo Emma

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Nudecember

Birthday Month!

So, let’s get this out of the way, how much turkey, dressing, sweet potato pie, ham, etc. have you eaten since Thanksgiving? Tell the truth…lol. Now it’s a new month and a almost a new year. Wow, how time flies when you’re busy.

I hope you enjoyed the BTS ( behind the scene) I posted of my family during Thanksgiving. If you didn’t see the post, the link is here. I love how my family keeps everything we do God-centered. I promise you that is the recipe for success. I also did a great Iron Bowl post for those who are Alabama fans. Check it out here.

Now that you’ve put on that 3lbs of Thanksgiving love handles, are you ready to go nude?  Not that kind of nude. Get your mind out of the gutter! I mean the fabulous kind of nude…the kind of nude you can wear outside the house without the police arresting you. The monochromatic kind of nude.

I just so happened to find these great pair of nude leggings at the Ghetto Dillard’s. If you live in Montgomery, Alabama, it’s the one in Eastdale Mall. My sister and I started calling it that after it became an outlet/zoo. I absolutely love the place and practically live there. Call me when you’re going because I’ll probably already be there. Check it out for great deals. Almost everything I have on today, I purchased there.

Remember to comment below and let me know how you like to go nude.

Psss…the best kind of nude is the kind you can wear outside the house.

Leggings-Hue

Heels- BCBG Generation

Cape- Reba (out of stock) / Go Jane

Shirt- Moon Collection / Amazon

Clutch- Michael Kors

Now, let me know what you think about this look, how you would have worn it differently or any suggestions that you have (comment below).

Be sure to follow me on Bloglovin for updates and follow me on Instagram and Snapchat (tinkrbe11e) and all emails and inquiries can be sent to funmis1@gmail.com.

XoXo Emma Ford